I am curious and wandering... I am a 17 years old male junior in high school. The girls I have dated this year are all 14 or 15 y/o freshman Don't ask why because I don't even know the answer to that. Anyways the last 4 girls I have dated I have broken up with one of them and then 3 of them have broken up with me. They all said the same thing or similar things, "I am NOT ready for commitment" OR "I am not ready for a relationship."
Now I know. Some of them just use these lines as excuses because they just lost feelings for me. Fine, but the ones that are actually telling the truth are serious. They just aren't ready for commitment OR a relationship.
This brings me to my point. What age OR grade do you think a girl has to be in to be ready for a real relationship? I believe they have to be in 11th or 12th grade. What do you think?
2006-12-10 06:34:31 · 18 answers · asked by Mr. Untouchable 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
... and why do you believe that they mature at this age?
2006-12-10 06:37:08 · update #1
Age 16. Research shows that girls who date prior to 16 will almost ALWAYS engage in sexual activities. Once they lose their virginity, they become easier for everyone and have sex with several partners.... not being discriminating or feeling the ability to say no.
Age 16 seems to be the magic age.... when a girl has matured enough to stand up for herself and say no when she needs to. Even if she does engage in sexual activity, she will do so with only a serious relationship, and not have many partners. She will be discriminating in her choice of partners.
For that reason.... I say AGE 16 and not before!
Best Wishes,
Sue
2006-12-10 06:38:05 · answer #1 · answered by newbiegranny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't believe that there is any one age at which a girl matures. Every girl is different. I think important factors are how your past love life has been, and how your current one is, and the basis for them both.
I hope you don't mind me using examples.
Example #1 is a girl. This girl met a foreign exchange student when she was 13 and he was 15. She found him physically attractive, and cute, in a sense, and much smarter (she believed) than her. He fell head over heels, ignoring a sea of other girls who wanted him. Because of the language barrier, she felt they got no further than a physical relationship. She also felt that he was too good to be true. She told him she didn't love him (a partial lie) and went into a kind of two year celibacy, where she dated a little, and contemplated a lot. Two years later they started chatting online (initiated by him) and found that they really enjoyed talking to each other. She fell in love and she didn't know how. He already felt that he was in love. Because of the great physical distance, they took to writing love letters constantly. This girl has told me that she feels she could and would marry this guy. She is only afraid of hurting him again.
Example # 2 is another woman. She is in her early forties and she is miserable. When she was fresh out of medical school, she was already quite successful, having done well in school. She was Korean, and she decided to marry a Caucasian man, who was less successful than she. She believed they were in love. On the day of their wedding, the groom flirted with the bridesmaids. The wedding went on. The woman took loads of money from her parents, not because she wanted to, because her husband thought it would be good. This husband ended up cheating on her and left her, later asking for money and sueing for even more money. The woman was left miserable, and looked so much worse for the wear, that when she came home, few recognized her.
In conclusion, there is no ONE age (in my opinion) OR grade that a girl is ready for a real relationship. Ever read 'Lolita'? How about those 100 year olds that finally marry? Sometimes girls believe themselves to be in love, believe that a commitment is good for them. Some girls don't have time for a commitment. Some girls like being comfortable. Some girls can never, ever settle down. Some girls like the idea of a commitment, but can't follow through. So every girl is different. Girls mature at different times in their lives.
Good luck with your love life! :)
2006-12-10 07:42:16 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
18 to 20
2006-12-10 06:36:11 · answer #3 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
20
2006-12-10 06:37:19 · answer #4 · answered by ashipaila 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
18
2006-12-10 06:39:23 · answer #5 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My opinion is that as long as you have both turned 18 and therefore are legally classed as adults then it dosent matter what anybody elses opinion is your both adults and you can do what you like, some people may find a very big age gap a concern or perhaps deem the relationship to not be genuine but haters are going to hate! (there is an eight year gap between me and my bf) p.s. Have you actually met each other? im just saying be careful because there are many online predators out there p.p.s As my gran says, there is a jack for every jill out there!
2016-05-23 02:30:29 · answer #6 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Probably 16 or 17. My 16y/o sister has been with her current bf for a little over a year now, and they are really commited and happy. I know a girl in my grade who had a boyfriend in 3rd grade. It was pretty much a pretend relationship - who can seriously have a bf/gf relationship when they're 9 or 10?
2006-12-10 07:19:39 · answer #7 · answered by Cayleen O 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i would say by the time she is 18 and graduating from HS. its either off to college or a job at that point and priorities change. have you ever thought maybe you are just attracted to, or drawn to immature girls even though you claim to want more than that from a relationship? it's odd that you seem to gravitate towards girls that you may know from the beginning do not want something serious...
2006-12-10 06:37:02 · answer #8 · answered by cami 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
47
2006-12-10 06:36:09 · answer #9 · answered by chilisauce2727 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Its not a set age love, really not. Its a level of personal maturity. The end of my freshman year, I started dating a guy and here we are now, three years later still together. It also depends who its with, maybe they didnt see anything with You, or maybe their focus is school at that point...dont take it personally. Chacnes of you meeting your future wife in HS are slim
2006-12-10 06:41:57 · answer #10 · answered by Aria 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋