Should I wait longer?

Question

After five years, my best friend and I have decided to give dating a try.

I really like him, and I can see myself maybe one day having sex with him, but I dont know how long to wait. It's not like we're still trying to get to know eachother. We've been friends for five years, I know everything about him. He knows everything about me.


I just dont know how to long to wait, or what to wait for. I don't want to give it up after a week, because I don't want to come off easy. But I don't think I can wait six months either.

Any advice? thanks

Answer 1

if this is love, your tested and he's tested and you know eachother, then you have to understand this "true love waits" and if you're really that desperate for sex then do it, idc. but if you want it to be special, 6 months really wouldn't kill you.


also think about this, sure you've known him for 5 years, but you knew him AS A FRIEND, give yourself time to know him as a boyfriend. also you should wait a while to see if he can commit, if you put out too early that will make a mess, and might even cause heartache.

Answer 2

There is no timeline for when/if you should or should not have sex (unless you have religious beliefs to the contrary). The most important things to think of before jumping in the sack are are you ready for what comes after sex? Having sex changes everything about the relationship, are you prepared for what could happen? Have you discussed birth control and safer sex options with your potential partner? AIDS is a serious threat, but there are so many other STIs out there that people don't talk about; like herpes. Herpes are forever, it never goes away, and if you are a female it can affect you ability to have children in the future. Are you prepared for the oh-my-god-how-did-that-happen senerios that having sex sets you up for? The condom broke and my period is late and what's this icky rash situations?

Further more, what it comes down to is this. 5-10 years from now do you think you'll regret having sex with this person?

If you feel ready and you use caution, protecting yourself and your partner as much as possible, and you want to have sex; then I see no reason you shouldn't.

Do not allow anyone pressure you into having sex, don't have sex because "everyone else is". Having sex is quite literally opening yourself up to another human and there is a high price that comes with that responsiblity. Just make sure to take care of yourself, before worrying about taking care of anyone else.

Answer 3

No what's the point in waiting since you say you have known him this long. Just remember that having SEX with him will change things.

I was in your shoes once and wish I had not. Cause I can't look at him now or see him and not have sex when all I really want to be is his friend cause he is not into commiting to ONE. This I found out the hard way.

Answer 4

wait until after x-mas - this way you won't screw up the potential for a good present

Answer 5

go with the flow