I really like a guy...but the thing is that I'm very moody...sometimes I'm avalaible for him ...and sometimes not...I 'm telling him to get over me cuz Im insecure and go away ...but he stands by me... I often lie to him tha tI have to go somewhere...just no to go out with him...and then I feel guilty about it...I really like him( even though he is not perfect) ...but something stops me ....how to overcome this insecurity?
I must say that this insecurity comes...that I'm afraid to commit with somone...in fact I 'm being too careful...not to hurt myself again...
any similar experience...
thanks.
2006-12-10 06:14:52 · 10 answers · asked by Aquamarine 5 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You're clearly not ready for a new or serious relationship. Forgive me for using a very silly analogy, but it's like staring at a package of cookies, while suffering from a stomach ache. They look so good, and you don't want to pass them up, but you know it's not the right time to eat them, because your stomach hurts. Maybe keep the cookies around for later. Ofcourse someone else might eat them first, but that is ok.
2006-12-10 06:21:43 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
If he's insecure, you're insecure as well. You and your moods will not get you anywhere, that is guaranteed. You first have to control your moods. If you're mad about something, or something irritates you and you're going to meet with someone...leave your bad moods at home, and enjoy your time with the person you are with. This guy really seems to like you, and the way you are, is not working to get rid of him, specially because you're also doing it the wrong way. Insulting him, lying to him, etc. will not really do the trick. How do you do that? Find out yourself, everyone's different.
However, no one is really going to be around you when you're on your bad moods. I know I wouldn't be your friend if I knew you were this way. If you can't control it, see a therapist, and give this guy a chance to get aquainted with you, at least be friends...he seems to really want to have something with you.
2006-12-10 14:20:37 · answer #2 · answered by Mstislav 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice to you is to lighten up and relax. You like this guy and obviously he likes you so there isn't anything to be insecure about and who cares that he's not perfect no one's perfect ppl think they are but they aren't. And if you're breaking dates then maybe you need to think if you really like this guy then you need to choose because by breaking dates you might be confusing him. Take a day or two to think about what you want to do. If you really like this guy then you shouldn't feel insecure and want to break dates. If you aren't comfortable with yourself then you'll never get over it. Take some time to think and get comfortable wth yourself that's the best way to get of insecurity.
2006-12-10 14:20:08 · answer #3 · answered by littlewitch19912006 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
That guy is probably waiting for you to make a decision. You didn't mention that you did or didn't like him to the actual guy like straight up. You know he likes you and you kind of like him. Just talk to the guy and make sure he gets your point. Tell him you may not be ready for another relationship and if he really likes you he will be able to WAIT for you to overcome the insecurity. =]
Just make sure that people don't interfere. This is just between you and that fella.
2006-12-10 14:20:58 · answer #4 · answered by Leilani 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your afraid to get hurt, don't expect to find much happiness either. Sorry, but life is not always friendly, you take the good with the bad.
2006-12-10 14:17:41 · answer #5 · answered by boxersgirlbunny 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
if you go up to this guy act confident then things will go great. and remember commitment is a good thing. its someone to rely on when you are upset and someone to talk to.
2006-12-10 14:17:32 · answer #6 · answered by Elle :) 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
when feelings come they just come..when they go they just go.. when you get hurt its still an expierence, so it doesn't matter what happens tomorrow, just think about today.
2006-12-10 14:17:29 · answer #7 · answered by Yuri Ebihara 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
guys like girls who are straight forwad, they don't like being taken round in circles
2006-12-10 14:17:19 · answer #8 · answered by chris s 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should give it sometime to think out tihngs
2006-12-10 14:18:09 · answer #9 · answered by nonestopchick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
see a shrink..he will definitely help
2006-12-10 14:17:40 · answer #10 · answered by gala-day 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋