... and now, after a solid, very good and stable one year relationship with me, she says that she can no longer deal with my two small children. She used to love kids, but says that she now has realized that since she had the abortion, she cannot be around kids, even mine. This is killing our relationship. What should I do?
2006-12-10 06:09:09 · 14 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
children are way more important. do they like her? if they do then tell them it isn't working out. tell her that u can't be around a woman u love that doesn't love ur kids. and also tell her that u will miss her but that this is the best thing to do. if she doesn't agree just leave and tell her nothing will ever change, that if she doesn't want to be around children then u two weren't meant to be. i mean u have children who u love, and she knows u have children but can't stand to be around them. start dating. find out if there is another woman out there for u that u love and ur children love, and most importantly u should find a woman who loves u and ur children.
2006-12-10 06:16:26 · answer #1 · answered by Katleen F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to realize that this is a huge deal for her. She knows her reasons were correct in getting the abortion, but every time she sees your kids she thinks--I killed my baby. I could have one of these.
You two should go to couple's therapy. It would really have a great effect on your relationship.
2006-12-10 06:14:51 · answer #2 · answered by Briar 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
His reaction to this after 5 years is slightly atypical and that i might time table some counseling for him because of fact he's no longer grieved for his loss and in doing so he's no longer able to stay and get excitement from the present life he has now so this could be a physically powerful time to place your foot down and be organization approximately him in seek of help because of fact your daughter will finally end up paying a heavy cost if she has to strengthen up in Evelyn's shadow. stable success to you.
2016-10-14 10:00:20 · answer #3 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If she does love your kids more than like when ur not around she is mean to your children the best thing that you can do for your kids is to leave her and get you a gf who is going to treat your kids like there hers and love them as much as you do and your children will start to love her as if there are her real mother. LEAVE HER IMMEDIATELY!!!! Dont let your kids put up with that if they ever hear her say that she doesnt like them then there going think that you dont love them either!!! TRUST ME
2006-12-10 06:14:23 · answer #4 · answered by chevyman2004 1 · 0⤊ 2⤋
OK whats the point of being with someone that doesn't like your kids, when she first met you she was aware that you already had a family, maybe she already found someone else and is just trying to make excuses! just let her go
2006-12-10 06:16:06 · answer #5 · answered by ... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Let her go if she wants to but dont compare her with ur kids cause they need u n u need them. But try to save ur relationship with her if it seems impossible then let go.
2006-12-10 06:15:20 · answer #6 · answered by yordanos a 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is very guilt ridden, and need to talk to a professional to get through these feelings. Just be there for her, and love her.
2006-12-10 06:13:05 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
your kids come first. If they cant get along you need to let her go.
2006-12-11 10:49:58 · answer #8 · answered by TJ815 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sorry, but it sounds like she wants out.
2006-12-10 06:12:48 · answer #9 · answered by boxersgirlbunny 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she needs to get help for her feelings or it will not work.
2006-12-10 06:18:29 · answer #10 · answered by Btieti 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋