How to deal with a heavy heart.....?

Question

I have been very burdened lately about the spiritual condition of my loved ones.There have also been alot of deaths and attempted suicides over the past few months.How can I deal with this?

Answer 1

Prayer. I can understand your heart - but trust in God that He will do His work in your loved ones. My dad never professed to be a believer in Jesus. When I became a Christian, he thought it was a passing phase. But when it became apparent that I was a different person, and that my faith in God was a life long transformation, he started to question. I don't know if he ever became a Christian - I cannot profess to know the heart of any person. However, after his death, I found the Bible I had given him years prior turned to the passages I had highlighted for him regarding salvation and the gospel of Jesus. I leave my dad in God's capable hands and trust in God that He is just.

Let me share with you my favorite verse in the Bible:

Phil 4:6-7

Be anxious for nothing, but through prayer and supplication, with thanksgiving, make your requests made known to God. And the peace of God, which surpasses all understanding, will keep your hearts and minds through Christ Jesus.

This verse comes with a promise. Note, it does not say He will fix everything, but rather that He will give you peace when you give Him your worries.

Answer 2

I really wish I was educated so I could help. I know talking to family about this, and getting support from friends helps. I like how Endora expressed herself.
Perhaps your religious leader (Pastor/Priest/?) or the professional grief councilor at your church can help, if you feel like talking. For my grief I found some help with my priest.
Wanting to share others burdens is different than taking the whole load onto yourself.
This is why many of the answers suggested distancing yourself from your loved ones/friends - your desire for loved ones to be better fast is wonderful, but the process takes time, so many want you to rekindle your self and let the process happen at your loved ones own speed of recovery.
I heard there are levels to grief, anger, denial, ? they happen at different times according to each persons grief.
Well I feel I babbled to long, sorry, I would like to echo the other answers in that taking care of yourself will help your loved ones, very much.
Having fun is important, 24/7 of grief hurts more than people understand, so dance and laugh as much as you can. Have no regrets while having fun, as these activities recharge your soul.

Answer 3

I am sorry that you have dealt with so much in a short. It's hard to deal with deaths that you cannot resolve easily. You will never know truly why someone tried to kill himself or herself. It's just not something we can know. You really need to see if you can find a counselor. If the money isn't available, then you can also talk to a pastor. They are usually trained in grief counseling. You need to talk to someone because it's very hard to deal with it alone. Again, I'm sorry you have dealt with this. Stay strong.

Amanda
[e-mail]

Answer 4

There is no sure fired way to answer this my friend.

Get a pillow or a punching bag and have at it whenever the frustration of it all gets to you. Talk with your loved ones when you feel the need. Call your family on a whim. All these could help, or none of them.

At the risk of sounding clich`e, you need to find what will help you the most inside of yourself.

Answer 5

One of my favorite scriptures is Philippeans 4:6, 7 which says:

Do not be anxious over anything, but in everything by prayer and supplication along with thanksgiving let your petitions be made known to God; and the peace of God that excels all thought will guard your hearts and your mental powers by means of Christ Jesus.

Also Psalms 55:22 which says:

Throw your burden upon Jehovah himself, and he himself will sustain you. Never will he allow the righteous one to totter.

Answer 6

You are not responsible for actions of those around you. You do not contribute to their illnesses. Do not allow them to depress you, or you will end up in the same place. Distance yourself from these people as quickly as possible, for they are doing themselves and you NO GOOD WHAT SO EVER!
You can only be responsible for yourself. Live your life to the best it can be, succeed in face of adversity, and be determined NOT to be dragged down by others. Good luck and cheer up..it is Christmas time.

Answer 7

try not to think about it, focus on what you are doing, what you need to do, and don't dwell on the negative--if you do it will drag you down to a place you don't want to go--it takes time to absorb and deal with these traumas, and it seems like the stress will never go away, but as long as you can focus on something positive, you can keep going, and you'll find, in time, that you have dealt with it all in bits and peices along the way--good luck, Darling, you're in my heart!

Answer 8

Speak gently with your loved ones about what is laid upon your heart. Let him that has ears hear. If they will not then you must simply comfort yourself in the knowledge that you tried. You cannot make anyone except your faith you can simply speak to them and show them by your example.

Answer 9

The veil of darkness seeks to engulf the light of the soul with it's darkness. Keep your eye on the light of the goal, it is not a burdened for you to carry unless you seek the darkness. Lighten the heart, it is your choice, to be free to light the way, or doomed in darkness.

Answer 10

They are searching for the Lord. You can find God inside of you. You can achieve internal peace and happiness. When you get on track with God then maybe you can lead others on the path, too. Remember that you can change you but you cannot change others....however, you can influence others and love others.