My boyfriend and I have been going out now for 8 months and he won't even kiss me yet. I think he is shy but I'm not sure. I don't want to break up with him because I love him SO MUCH!!!!!!!! We hug each other but not very often and I can tell he is shy about that. What should I do??????????!!!!!!!!!!
2006-12-10 05:49:17 · 12 answers · asked by ~AnGel~ 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
You have to take charge of the situation, but in a very gentle way. He needs your help to feel comfortable. If u can help him get over his shyness, he will love you to death for it, believe me!! Try cuddling up on the couch with him while watching a move or tv. Just snuggle up to him, place his arm around u if necessary, and stay like that. After a few minutes, say something like, "Isn't this nice? I love being with u like this," and give him a sweet smile and a little kiss on the cheek. When u then later go home (or he goes home), tell him, "I had a really nice time with u tonight..." Just take it slow, but do little things. At first don't talk about it directly bec he will feel embarrassed and uncomfortable. In time, when he starts to warm up, then u can start to talk about it in a light way. I had a similar problem with a man, and he changed so much when I handled it like thisl!!! Don't complain about his behavior; instead, gently guide him in the right direction.
2006-12-10 06:00:22 · answer #1 · answered by F 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have been going out with this guy for 8 months and not kissed there is definitely an issue. I won't speculate as to what it is. I would suggest you bring it up but don't make a big deal about it even though it is. Maybe he just hasn't because he isn't sure you want to....hell Kiss him. take control of the situation if he isn't really in to it then he will have to do something about it. maybe he will explain what is going on.
2006-12-10 06:01:35 · answer #2 · answered by alguy427 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My first question back to you is, How old are you guys? Younger guys, like grade school and younger don't like to hug and kiss or even hold hands! Give him time. If you're both in Jr High or older, is he going with you just to "fit in"? Do all his buddies have girlfriends and he didn't? Is there the possibility he may be covering up his sexual orientation? If he's gay he may be afraid of what people say, or worse, what they'll do to him. Try to be patient and understanding with him, but try to get him to talk about it. If he does say he's gay, it is NOT your place to pass on that information. He must be the one to "come out", you can't push him. Good luck.
2006-12-10 06:00:49 · answer #3 · answered by lilpalmemo 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This might be bad advice to some, but I'll take the risk! Please don't try this without your parents consent though!
Get a bottle of red wine. Pour a glass each and give the rest to your parents. Then go to your bedroom and just kiss him! He is at the stage where he must be thrown in the deep end. Please don't take that literally and go swimming.
He should lighten up after that! If he lights up a cigarette then you have done a good job.
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2006-12-10 05:54:38 · answer #4 · answered by ? 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, i think you should talk to him about it... Some guys are very shy about it... so it will take some time until he gets open with you... it's only been 8 months... so let him know how you feel...
2006-12-10 05:53:17 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
ask him why he doesnt kiss u why he isnt affectionate..it might be him hunny not u...he might have a problem showing affection because he doesnt want to get hurt.. I know when I first started dating one of my friends i was worried about showing affection for fear of losing them so quickly...U should just ask him about it, im sure theres a resonalbe explaination
2006-12-10 05:54:24 · answer #6 · answered by Nay 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there are three thing in a relationship that always work understanding / trust /communication, he can read your mind maybe he dont know how to kiss / talk to him good luck the joker
2006-12-10 06:10:33 · answer #7 · answered by nightman122554 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Are you in an extended distance courting as in she moved, or youve under no circumstances met her? if in case you have under no circumstances met her dont allow it get to deep for your middle, ladies have stages, supply it every week shell be correct.
2016-09-03 08:57:35 · answer #8 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
hmm well like figure out if he is shy and then if you figure out he isn't then you should break up w/ him.
2006-12-10 05:52:06 · answer #9 · answered by casebuscher@sbcglobal.net 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ask him why. Maybe he doesn't believe in premarital sex. Or maybe, he doesn't really want to be your boyfriend.
2006-12-10 05:52:25 · answer #10 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋