My five year old son is starting to wet his pants at least three times a week during the day. Night time accidents are rare and don't bother me. One time he peed his pants right in front of me and was looking right at me when he did it. When I asked why he did that he answered that he forgot that he had to go pee pee. We are in the middle of potty training our three year old son. Could he be doing this to get attention because we are giving a little extra attention to our three year old? I need to know what to do about this. When we first potty trained our oldest, he hardly ever had accidents. Please help!
A frustrated mother
2006-12-10 05:47:41 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Yours is a really very delicate situation. You need to be diplomatic in dealing with it. Without making a big issue out of it, you ought to make efforts to make your five year old understand the need for him to do what he should do to answer natural calls. Meanwhile, try and handle the three year old away from the five year old as far as possible so that the attention factor can be minimised. Have patience, things will improve and settle down sooner than you anticipate!
2006-12-10 05:59:06 · answer #1 · answered by Sami V 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's getting what he wants. Your attention.
You're interacting with him and taking time from the little one.
He craves time with you, whether it is quality time or not.
Instead of dealing with changing his wet pants and cleaning him up, just point your finger toward the bathroom and tell him to 'go take your clothes off, take a bath, and get clean clothes on'.
Now, instead of getting to interact with you directly, he'll be facing time alone doing un-fun things.
When he comes back into the room, be nice to him (his punishment is over and any anger is now passed), and tell him that if he goes all the way through tomorrow without wetting his pants, he can stay up after his little brother goes to bed and you'll play his favorite game with him. (be sure to have cookies and milk ready). Spend a half hour with him without distraction and make this something you do regularly (whether it's 2 or 3 nights a week, or every day) until he grows out of this need for closeness with you.
Never forget: Our children are our message that we send into the future.
2006-12-10 14:04:05 · answer #2 · answered by s2scrm 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He may be feeling alittle left out. Why not use him as an example to the younger one? Have him show the baby how to use the potty. That way he will slip into the big brother mode instead of feeling threatened. He will be proud of himself and maybe even potty train his brother for you!
2006-12-10 13:57:50 · answer #3 · answered by MeanKitty 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Elly, he probaly is jealous. You should try to keep track of when he does this, because he might be doing this when you start holding your 3-year old or kissing him/her, or showing some type of affection towards her/him. If he is wtting his pants when you do this...he is DEFINITLEY jealous.You could prevent him from peeing in his pants by showing him just as mucha ffection as you do your 3-year old if that is posisble.
2006-12-10 13:58:52 · answer #4 · answered by Jasmin 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell ur son 2 make sure he tells u when he needs to go and reward him 4 doing so... it will make him feel special
2006-12-10 14:00:34 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
he could be jelous
2006-12-10 13:54:27 · answer #6 · answered by I♥RD 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋