Just when children are leaning about the world .The Santa lie emerges. Telling children its ok to take things from strangers, This stranger is goin to come into your house and bring you things only if youre a good boy or girl. This stranger is always watching you. This stranger is a good stranger! Parnets use this as an empty tool controling behaivor short term and have to make the lies bigger and bigger as children ask more questions...
2006-12-10 05:31:45 · 18 answers · asked by RJ 3 in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Grade-Schooler
I think a lot depends on how much you have encouraged your kids to buy into the Santa myth
we have told our son from year dot that Santa isn't really real but is part of the seasonal mythology
he is now 8 years old and has no confusions and we have no stories to explain away because we have said to him things like 'OK you can see Santa but you do know he isn't real don't you'
i know that many people wouldn't agree with that tack but it does work - he can enjoy talking to Santa but there is no comeback later on in life either
and BTW Santa was based on a real living christian Turkish bishop - saint Nicolas who really did anonymously donate presents to children he knew of who were good but none to those who were not good. He also heard of some Christians about to be beheaded over a trumped up charge on the other side of the city whereupon he ran barefoot across town and intervened to stop the beheading from taking place
upon his death his bones were venerated and gave off a perfumed smell that was much prized by icon hunters and the like
2006-12-10 11:32:39 · answer #1 · answered by Aslan 6 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Good question! I was never told about SC, so I have never believed... And I feel it was a rip! All the other kids I played with beleived in SC and they all got tons of stuff and since I was told explicitly that there was no SC, I only got presents from the neighbors. So even though all the presents were basicly unimportant, it would have been nice to have some of that innocence (and the toys, of course).
But maybe it was a good thing, as I've never had the same illusions that other adults have and I know that if I want something I will just have to find a way to get it myself since there is no "free lunch".
Might have been nice to wake up to gifts that appeared magically under the tree though!
2006-12-10 05:40:47 · answer #2 · answered by Trust no 1 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
Absolutely not. Have you ever heard an adult say that they were ruined for life because they believed in Santa. It is the adults who put all the "lie connotations" on the belief of Santa. Let kids be kids and believe in Santa, the Easter bunny, fairies and all other things that enriched our lives as kids. Reality in this day and age is not so great so why not add some happiness
2006-12-10 11:48:48 · answer #3 · answered by Rachel 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
If that is your opinion, then you should not expose your child to Santa in the first place. Although a child cannot help seeing images of Santa and hearing about him outside the home, inside the home the parent is in control of what the child sees and hears. If you do not believe in Santa and do not feel it is something you want to encourage in your child, then don't. There is no law that says you have to.
However, for those who do believe in Santa, I do not think it is wrong to encourage the fantasy of someone good and kind wanting to give things to children. We read them Dr. Suess even though we know that it is not possible for there to be a whole world of Grinch type characters out there somewhere. We watch Ice Age with them even though we know that animals cannot talk. Childhood is a world of imagination--there is no harm in encouraging imagination even if it seems like lies to we adults.
2006-12-10 06:23:28 · answer #4 · answered by writergirl 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I agree and disagree with you. I won't be telling my son that there is a Santa Claus. He will know the story of St. Nick and why so many people still talk about Santa. He will know the real story about why we celebrate Christmas, and he will know that mommy and daddy give him presents to celebrate a joyous occasion.
I do agree that parents use Santa as a way of controlling their kids behavior. "Don't do that....I said dont do that....i am going to call Santa and tell him not to bring you any gifts!!". I dont know how many times I have heard that. It's completely ridiculous.
And I also do not want to lie to my child. I felt horrible when I found out myself that my parents had been lying to me.
2006-12-10 05:36:57 · answer #5 · answered by Barbi 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
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2016-10-05 03:18:45 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
u do know kids are on here u no. lol it ca hurt parents. they lie to their child and eventually will learn there is no such thing. im not a parent yet so i'm not really sure. maybe Santa is just a way to make kids be good. but it might also give them experience on how ur family can be big fat liars. oh well.
2006-12-10 05:59:47 · answer #7 · answered by Vanessa 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Santa is one of my best memories! Just imagining him bringing my toys and dropping in while we were sleeping was an adventure. He sure didin't hurt my parents credibility. I appreciate that they worked so hard to make our dreams and imagingings real for us. They told us the truth when we were old enough to ask for it. To kids there really IS a santa. He's part of the charm of childhood and its memories.
2006-12-10 05:44:24 · answer #8 · answered by MeanKitty 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
my son is 10 now, just stopped believing this year.. i said well when you dont believe you dont get santa presents anymore. he said mom i been pretending 2 years now.... but ill keep doing it.
its not a lie. its imagination... like when kids pretend. it is the magic in it.
i dont use the santa tool for behavior, cause i know darn well thats not something i can follow through with. cant make empty threats. and i would never call santa and make him not bring presents lol.
kids dont get hurt by it because their belief is gradual. first their friend at school tells them in 3rd grade, but they think that kid is lying then graduall it all adds up for them, and they realize that there is still magic because for all the years their parents got them all that stuff that theyd never get if it wasnt christmas.
2006-12-10 06:11:20 · answer #9 · answered by stacym26 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You dont have to burst his bubble....he will feagure it out by himself....cause you raise a smart kid! By the way that you are wirting you don't seem to be at ease with the Santa Claus Story....if you are not at ease...don't say it....you are not obligate to talk about santa. You can talk about you and the spirit of Christamas....
2006-12-10 05:44:26 · answer #10 · answered by megalura 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋