2006-12-10 05:29:38 · 10 answers · asked by fm_aqua 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Turn the mom-in-law over to someone in her own family. The in-law should be glad that her daughter in law is willing to care for her. You don't say what the situation is. Why is her daughter-in-law taking care of her instead of one of her own kids or grandkids?
2006-12-10 05:34:35 · answer #1 · answered by eharrah1 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
First, she should talk to her husband about how she feels she is being treated. Then together, they should gently talk to the woman about her behavior. You are doing your best to care for an (I assume) older woman, who isn't capable of caring for herself. It wouldn't take much on her part to show you a little manners, a little respect, and a little appreciation for what you are doing (and giving up) for her. If the husband is part of the problem, not just a bystander, then he needs to do the same.
If talking didn't work, I would make him care for his mother on one of his days off, while I went out with my friends. Maybe it would show them both how much you do for her, and how much you do around the house. Nothing gets noticed as quickly as having to do something yourself when someone else usually does the chore.
2006-12-10 13:34:27 · answer #2 · answered by welches_grape_jelly 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Why is she living with her mother in law and not on her own. If you want respect get a place of your own.
2006-12-10 14:21:14 · answer #3 · answered by BROKENHEART 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You get what you allow. Demand the respect you deserve and take nothing less than that or make the proper arrangements for the MIL's care and pack your bags and leave.
2006-12-10 13:32:22 · answer #4 · answered by micg 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Depends on the age and condition of the mother-in-law, if its very serious I would still stay and help. If its not I would leave and hire a part time nurse to check up on her.
2006-12-10 13:32:44 · answer #5 · answered by Unknown 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like she needs a reality check .Especially if you are caring for her .You have to demand respect sometimes . I would simply tell her how you feel . If she don't like it than find other living arrangements.
2006-12-10 13:33:03 · answer #6 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would bail. You don't owe her anything & if she's not respecting you, she doesn't deserve for you to be caring for her. I don't know exactly what your situation is but you need to do what makes you happy. And having someone be rude & disrespect you is very aggravating. Good luck!
2006-12-10 13:31:45 · answer #7 · answered by erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
See if you can discuss it with her in a nonconfrontational manner.
"I'm confused, Mom-in-Law. I feel as if you are upset with me or don't value what I do around here."
Then listen.
2006-12-10 13:33:21 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
run away,you have married your hubby not her.
2006-12-10 13:40:29 · answer #9 · answered by simplewife20 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
leave...
2006-12-10 13:31:41 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋