there is this guy that shows interest. it's obvious that he likes me. the only thing is that i never acted on it... i kept my attraction towards him a secret....UNTIL recently when i told him that i had developed a crush on him, he is old enough to be my dad (im an adult though).. and i also, let him know that the flirting was getting outta hand, because i have a boyfriend..so i suggested that we stay away from one another.... i wasn't able to resist being away, so now we communicate again. the only thing i hate though is that we no longer have the same relationship. it's reserved, he is cautious with his words and actions... even though he still does certain things to show interest... how can i let him know that i am into him, and that it's ok... also do you think he is afraid that i am going to be uncomfortable if he starts acting the way he used to? im lost!
2006-12-10 05:24:32 · 11 answers · asked by trendsetta 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Well first you need to figure out what you want. If you want him then proceed, but do so a single woman, not some one who is in a relationship. this could be the reason that he is acting cautious. He obviously does care about you and is into you though, if you basically told him that you were picking another guy over him, and he is still kickin' it with you, sounds like a good guy. I would suggest that you find what you want, once you do then go for that, tell him how you feel, whats the worst that could happen? he say that he isn't interested and you move on, see not that bad.
2006-12-10 05:33:03 · answer #1 · answered by Papa V 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Kinda sounds like you want to have your cake and eat it too. If you are that attracted to this guy, then it is time to break up with your boyfriend, you are being very unfair to him by staying with him and messing around with someone else on the side, in essence you are hurting both of them at once and it is just not right. If you really loved your boyfriend, you would not be so attracted to this guy, and if you do love him, this attraction with the other guy will fizzle out quickly. Either way you are hurting people and taking a big chance with everyone's life.
2006-12-10 13:29:32 · answer #2 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Ok listen, if you are in a serious, long term relationship it's going to be real bad on everyone involved if you have a fling with him, if he's savvy he knows this. Do everyone a favour, if you want this other man then finish things with your boyfriend, most people would rather be dumped than cheated on.
Oh and with this guy, I get the impression you asked him to back off, so he's backing off. You'r gonna have to tell him what's what if you want him to change.
2006-12-10 13:32:15 · answer #3 · answered by wild boar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
So, you have a bf, and a crush on another guy. Hmm... if you still want a relationship with your bf, maybe you should just tell the guy that you want a friendship. BUT since you like him, and don't mind him liking you back, you should just tell him that you don't mind. I think you should think about your bf, and how you feel towards him, and decide how you will handle a relationship with two ppl.
I hope that helps somewhat. Maybe someone else can expand on my answer...
2006-12-10 13:43:02 · answer #4 · answered by Madamoiselle B 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well just tell him that you like him.....I mean it won't hurt to say it again. But how did he act?? If it made you uncomfortable its a bad thing but if you liked it then its all good. Now how old are you??
2006-12-10 15:47:46 · answer #5 · answered by *you make me feel invisible* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
YOU HAVE A BOYFRIEND !!! So why in the world are you talking to other guys anyway???
He's not related to you I assume, so why are you in constant contact with him?
BOO to you
2006-12-10 13:29:08 · answer #6 · answered by Phatstar 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just talk to him sometime and tell him . Tell him how you feel about him if it's possible.That's the only way he will know!
2006-12-10 13:28:48 · answer #7 · answered by IT'S JUST ME ! 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think afta da major rejection u gave him, he is more hesistent on doing it...u should let him kno its ok and he will relax
2006-12-10 13:28:04 · answer #8 · answered by Ree Ree 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have the same exact problem! I feel for you. I have no idea?!
2006-12-10 13:27:23 · answer #9 · answered by Buck C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think he maybe gave up on you
2006-12-10 13:26:46 · answer #10 · answered by darnell s 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋