very serious question?

Question

how can i bridge the gap between me and my grandmother i am 18 and she acts like she hates me, is there anything i can do to get along with her better?

Answer 1

I think at your age, it's very natural to be sort of "self centered." I don't mean that in a bad way, it's just a natural thing... You want the world to revolve around you and your needs. It's difficult and unnatural to be 'other-directed.' But, if you try, you might find something in common that you both enjoy talking about. Maybe you ask her about her life, her dreams, her values, her goals, and try to show genuine interest in what she says. She will feel valued and needed, and that will help her open up to you.

You see? I give smart-azz answers to questions about 80% of the time, but this one struck me as a question that warrants a serious response.

Answer 2

Sit down and talk with her. Tell her how you feel, that you want a better relationship with her, and ask what you can do to make that happen. Even offer some suggestions.

She may have chronic pain or come from a bad family situation where there was an absence of love and trust. She may look at you as Youth Personified and feel your loveliness is a slap in the face to her aging.

You didn't mention how she indicates she may hate you. Talking with her is the only way to find out.

Answer 3

Well you know your grandmother doesn't hate you she probably just is having a bad day. Try bonding with her.Since the holidays are coming around,
try telling her that maybe sometime she might want to make some cookies with you since Christmas is coming around.She will really appreciate that you would like to spend time with her.Try taking a look at these cookie recipes.They are easy and fun.Good Luck!

Answer 4

She probably doesn't hate you, but there's plenty you can do to bridge the gap. The first and easiest way is just to talk to her and listen. Maybe find some activities that she likes and participates with it.

Answer 5

Let your grandmother know how you feel. Tell her that you want a stronger relationship with her but you get the feeling that she doesn't care about you. GIve her examples of how she is making you feel that way, she might not even realize that she is doing it.

Answer 6

How old is she? The older they get the more stubborn and rightous they get. They get miserable with themselves somedays, and they take it out on everybody else. Especially young people. Just tryt to converse about things she likes (or liked). Maybe the "olden days". My grandmother was the same way. Crabby and stubborn mean. Just keep patiently trying, she might melt!

Answer 7

yes there is a way and don't let the chance pass you by, cuz its grandma and she will always be yours, start with getting a card saying i miss you and love you,now remember no expectation until she is ready. after cards she will start to come around if she has a birthday send her a personalized letter with a gift, OK i can go on all day....what i am telling to do is to-be kind and to remember making amends is a change of behavior

Answer 8

Hon love your grandmother , she dont hate you , take her something nice ,maybe make her , her favorite cake or something I cant see a grandmother not loving her presious granddaughter . You are a part of her , dont give up on her she loves you there are people who cant show love like others . dont give up . Good Luck

Answer 9

Listen to her advices carefully then do whatever you want later but don't argue with her even if you don't like what she says .

Answer 10

hmm this gap will always exist and its normal!
but ur granny loves u without doubt!