My husband has been away in limitary training for a few months and will be coming home soon. We have an infant and I stay at home with her(I am also pregnant). Anyhow, while he was away I moved in with my father and step-mom. Things went smoothly for a while but I have had a troubled past with my step-mom and we are very different and tend to clash as well as we have bad history. I was out of the country for a few years and did some growing up and now things have been much better between us because I don't let her BS upset me the way that I used to.
Anyhow, since my husband has been gone step-mom has made some rude remarks about how I care for my daughter. She tries to butt in but I don't give her much space. Also yesterday she said something and my father defended me and told her to shut her mouth about those things because I am a good mom. Things were smooth for a while but I want to move as soon as my husband gets orders for his next station. My question is...
2006-12-10 05:10:26 · 3 answers · asked by Somebody'sMother 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
should I tell my husband about the tension that I am having to deal with alone when he is gone? Or should I just pass the time and try not say anything until we move? He has to go again for ten weeks to complete his training after he sees us at x-mas break. Maybe I shouldn't stress him out about it? I normally would ignore things but my step-mom makes me do everything in the house (even I am pregnant and shouldn't be climbing or lifting) but I do all of it to keep peace. I am even washing her underwear, yuk! And she made jokes about me being her slave and servant. No one helps with my daughter and I am lucky if I get 4 hours of uninterrupted sleep. I really can't handle things much longer because I am getting to the end of my pregnancy and will need rest. To top it off step-mom is saying that I should stay here and have the baby here but I know she isn't going to help my recovery and doesnt know how to care for my daughter. I just want to move! Am I being selfish to expect this?
2006-12-10 05:14:49 · update #1
Wow. I think you are really going through a lot! First of all you shold take care of yourself and your daughter first. If step-mom has a problem with that then she can't say much about it since you are the one who primarily manages the house and also you are taking care of your daughter by yourself. If she asks why you aren't doing this or that housework then tell her that you are busy with your daughter and she won't have any room to make trouble. Also you should avoid talking to her too much and should definitely talk to your husband about it when he gets home. He should be aware of what's going on and maybe he can find some solution on your living situation. It is important for him to know what is happening. Best of luck and take care.
2006-12-10 05:31:01 · answer #1 · answered by Mom_of_two 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think that you should just chill for a while and take a little vaction give yourself a chance to realx. Tha will give you a chance to think things through for a while.
2006-12-10 13:16:19 · answer #2 · answered by nonestopchick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
whats ur question
2006-12-10 13:14:43 · answer #3 · answered by sharee-ree 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋