It is a very nice and expensive ring and I want her to enjoy it and keep it nice..
2006-12-10 05:09:33 · 15 answers · asked by swanny2213 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
The band is the part that is just getting scracthed
2006-12-10 05:16:58 · update #1
You have a right to be angry.
After all, the ring is supposed to symbolize your undying commitment to eachother, so like your love, you would want her to cherish it and take care of it. Gently tell her that it bothers you that she handles the ring that way. If you sincerly tell her i'm sure she'll understand.
2006-12-10 05:14:44 · answer #1 · answered by myfianceisamonkey 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
My fiance and I were engaged over the summer and he bought my "dream ring" but I was afraid to wear it! My friends told me that by doing normal activities I will not hurt the ring...and I havent had any problems, except one little scratch, but it buffed right out. Now I just take the ring off when I'm going to be cleaning or working out.
I would talk to her about your fears though. My bet is she is just excited and wants to show the ring off!
Most if not all of the scratches will buff off, but depending on the thickness and the type of setting, you have to be careful how often you have the ring buffed. Also, maybe you could compromise and ask her to keep the ring in a polishing box at night. Or you could buy her a cheap ring for her to wear around the house. (My guy doesn't like me walking around without a ring on so this is something we have talked about.)
But anyway you need to let her know what is bothering you; remember this is the start of a great marriage!
2006-12-10 17:57:18 · answer #2 · answered by systematicalf 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
From experience, let me tell you that, as much as I can truly understand your pique, I doubt you're gonna be able to do much to change her attitude and behavior after you tell her a few times how much that bothers you. As much as it may hurt you, and I can fully understand it, she may never change. I hate to admit that I've ALWAYS played with my wedding ring (tossing it in the air and between hands, etc.), and it has bothered my wives (as in more than one), but I have NEVER changed, and I'm in my mid-50's now. It's not that I don't love the woman I married, or respect the value of the ring, but I'm a high-strung person and I do the same thing with any watch I wear, regardless of the price. So, I don't wear a watch since I'm retired and don't have to know what time it is, and my wonderful wedding ring is sitting in a nice wooden box on top of my chest-of-drawers because it has become such an irritation to me when I drop it and have to go find it, that I no longer wear it, and my wife is okay with that. I know you probably "paid a mint for it" (her engagement and wedding ring), it's just something in her habits or personality, so, as hard as it may be, just do as the old saying goes, and "Suck it in and bear it". I know it's tough, but, I can promise you, tougher things in life are to come, and it's not worth getting all worked up over an engagement and wedding ring set, no matter how much you paid for it. Just make sure you don't buy her a replacement set. God Bless you.
2006-12-10 13:28:57 · answer #3 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Bring the ring to the jeweler and find out if it is really getting damaged. My jeweler told me that my ring showed almost no signs of wear, even thoug there were visible scratches -apparently that is normal (mine buffed out with polishing, which I had done when they made the wedding ring). He said a lot of women's rings look like they have been dragged along the sidewalk. She should take her ring off when she gets home, and put it on fresh and clean every morning. She should not wear it doing chores or working out. You might be over-reacting. But then again maybe she needs someone to explain how to take care of it.
2006-12-10 13:28:44 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
She shouldn't be able to scratch it if it's real, so I wouldn't worry about it. Plus she can always pay to have it cleaned or *hint, hint* there's usually that guy in the mall that is trying to show how wonderful his cleaner is and will clean it for free, lol. I think if you love each other, than material things should not come between you and if it is you might want to rethink what you are about to get into or at least have couple counseling.
2006-12-10 13:12:56 · answer #5 · answered by Miaka D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
In her defense, rings tend to get scratch just in daily wear and tear...I hit mine against things by accident all the time. But, she should be taking care to keep it in as good condition as she can. She shouldn't sleep with it on or wash the dishes with it. Take it to get inspected (you should have gotten a warranty with it) and see what (if any) damage there is.
2006-12-10 17:30:01 · answer #6 · answered by Galoshes 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
What about when she's washing dishes, scrubbing out the bathroom, moving furniture, gardening, etc. She can't keep it all lovely and unscratched then. She should be able to keep it on all the time and not be worried about what she's doing in case it scratches. Gold can scratch but it shines up OK.
2006-12-11 04:50:28 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Who is that ring suppose to belong to you or her after you give it to her. You mean she will have to wear gloves just so she want scratch that wedding ring. How can she enjoy with you watching it all the time. I got a feeling when you marry her that is gonna be one of those short term marriages.
2006-12-10 13:15:26 · answer #8 · answered by Nicki 6 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Well,
If my fiance did that and I cleary knew that she wasn't taking care of it, then I may be upset because it shows lack of caring for such a personal and important symbol of your love to her. Tell her how you feel. If she isn't doing it intentionally, I would worry about it, what matters is that you both love each other. Hope this helps.
Wee Man.
2006-12-10 17:03:29 · answer #9 · answered by boychuka 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Would you like it if she just keeps it in the box because she wouldn't want to scratch it? Or do you want her to be reminded of your love and relationship everyday of her life by letting her wear it and enjoy it?
2006-12-10 22:59:24 · answer #10 · answered by maimai 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋