Okay, I have a friend that is getting married, and her parents are the sole financial contributors for the wedding. The bride and groom are recent college grads that have yet to find jobs, so they are unable to put any money towards the wedding. The bride and grooms families are all blue collar type people with no clue about designers and fomalities.
Here's the problem: The bride has insisted on the best that money has to offer, although she came from humble beginnings and her parents are struggling to make it a wonderful wedding they cannot afford all that she is asking for but feel obligated. She insists on Vera Wang china and champagne flutes, designer everything! The guests are all country folk that would not know Vera Wang from Wal-mart. Should her parents break the bank or she should come back down off of her high horse and be realistic?
2006-12-10 05:08:28 · 10 answers · asked by stacey h 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Weddings
Well, every bride wants thier wedding day to be wonderful and everything they've dreamed of. Just b/c she comes from a "blue collar" family as you put it, doesn't mean she doesn't dream big, she went to college to better herself, and to make the money she needs to afford all those fancy "designer" things she's dreaming of.
Problem is... she's not paying for this wedding. She needs to be more considerate of her parents, not take advantage of them. She either needs to wait to have the wedding they can afford or be respectful of her parents and thier income, unfortunately the only person/people who can control this is her parents. They have to be the one's to put thier foot down and say enough is enough.
2006-12-10 06:44:24 · answer #1 · answered by *~Mom2aJellybean~* 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What a b*tch. This is why I hate weddings. She just wants to impress everyone and break her parents's bank and she doesn't give a crap about anyone else. She sounds like a real jerk and a real brat. Weddings turn people into evil monsters.
Perhaps she should have waited until she had a job so she could learn a little about the value of a dollar. Besides, someone who would rush into a wedding right after college instead of waiting to be more financially stable doesn't sound like she's getting married for the right reasons. She's getting married for the white dress and the attention, and she probably treats her guy like crap. She'll probably divorce him before she's 25.
2006-12-10 05:15:40 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Woah, Easy fella. Weddings are stressful - all kinds of sht gets stirred up. If she is on her high horse, which it sounds like she is, then I would NOT recommend YOU being the one to bring her down. You might get trampled. Just let her go through her process and dont give any unsolicited advice. If her country folk friends can't afford to buy her gifts from Vera Wang, then she won't get any gifts. And perhaps she would rather get nothing then gifts from WalMart. If her parents are willing to break the bank, then that's what they'll do. It sounds like they want it too. If they can't set financial limits with their daughter's wedding, that is their problem - not yours.
2006-12-10 05:36:54 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Exactly she needs to be realistic every bride wants a fantastic all out wedding but they have to think realistically. She needs to spend what she can afford. Unless she feels like waiting a while until her and her fiance get jobs and save up some money.
2006-12-10 05:38:17 · answer #4 · answered by . 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would say they should pull her off the high horse and be more realistic. All that stuff is so materialistic and it does not make you any happier. The important issue is the wedding itself, that the couple are happy. I come from a very weathly family and I didn't want all this stuff at my wedding because you realise at one point that material things do not bring happiness what so ever
good luck
2006-12-10 05:12:37 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Her parents need to give her what they can...she is just going to have to find a way to make her reception look Vera Wang, without the name. There are definitely ways to get creative and make things with a limited budget.
2006-12-10 14:58:15 · answer #6 · answered by VAWeddingSpecialist 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This lady is being ridiculous....if she came from humble beginnings then i dont understand why she would even WANT to have a designer everything wedding....i mean, i woulnd want it like that....she needs to be realistic and realize the world doesnt go around her...is this a friend of yours...? She sounds so snobby...
2006-12-10 05:26:25 · answer #7 · answered by I Got a St. Patty's Baby! 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
How aweful! This girl sounds extremely selfish. Yes, she needs to come down a bit. Unless her friends are the Trumps or the Hiltons, they don't freakin' care nor will they know! You need to tell the groom to run... like, NOW!
2006-12-10 11:49:18 · answer #8 · answered by lester 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Personally designer isn't always better. And her parents shouldn't waste their money on her unrealistic ideals of "the perfect wedding". You can get gorgeous china, stemware, cake, flowers etc without having to get them from the "right" people. The name printed on something doesn't make it better...it just makes it more expensive.
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