I am recently divorced, I am interested in finding a new love but, the thought of living with someone again, getting used to their stuff, having them get used to mine and all that makes me unsettled. I once heard of a couple who lived in a urban area and they got married and had been married when I heard the story for something like 5-6 yrs. They kept their individual apartments and loved the arrangement. Is this so weird?
2006-12-10 04:54:39 · 21 answers · asked by Lisa Bee 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
no. my parents did that for 6 years and they've been married for about 23 years. they'd see each other durig the day at the house and then my dad would go to his apt. at night. they were much happier and so was the rest of the family
2006-12-10 05:00:04 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I'm the same way, especially since I'm extremely picky and compulsively organized. Even though I know there will come a day when I have to marry & move out with someone, I really love having my OWN room & having my things the way that I want them. I would like to have my house the way I want it, and it doesn't always work out that way when you live with someone, which I'm sure you already know.
The key is finding someone just like you. The fact that my fiancee is just as organized & clean as I am, and the fact that we like the same kind of furniture and whatnot makes me feel a WHOLE lot better. I'm sure you'll be fine, you should really do what makes you happy in the end. If you don't want to live with someone, then don't do it-- it's just more drama. :-) Good luck & I hope you find the right someone.
2006-12-10 04:59:05 · answer #2 · answered by erica 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I have some of the same feelings. I don't mind living alone at all. There are pros and cons to it. On one hand, I miss the conversation, the touch and "spoiling" a man. Then on the other hand, if after work I feel like speading peanut butter on a slice of bread, folding it over and taking a nice, long, hot bubble bath and relaxing and enjoying the quiet, is good too! : )
The thing I fear most about living with someone again is, that it will become dull. : ( I have decided to never just " play house"
Good luck and enjoy your " quiet " time. I know I do! : )
2006-12-10 05:09:57 · answer #3 · answered by no cutesy name : ) 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is nothing wrong with wanting to keep your space. Moving in with someone is a big step and if your just divorced then maybe it is better to keep yourself from getting too personal for a little while. Because some women tend to get right back in there and end up with a bunch of idiots. But don't keep yourself from world. Just work your way around the bad parts of it.
2006-12-10 05:03:29 · answer #4 · answered by Katie P 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If your just newly divorced, of course you don't have any feelings in getting use to someone else right now.
You need time for you to get use to who you are, where you been, where you want to go, and what you will and will not put up with in another man.
Not strange at all.............more like "mature". :-)
The couples I have known that stayed together but lived seperatly, were only doing it because of pending, and expected "inheritance".
But it could work for open marriages sure. But I don't believe in them. They have no meaning to the wedding vows.
2006-12-10 04:59:37 · answer #5 · answered by peggin_beast 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I can see how you'd feel that way since you've just gotten divorced. With time your feelings may change but even if they don't I don't think its weird that you prefer to live that way and if your new partner is in agreement with that then who cares what anyone else thinks, right?
2006-12-10 06:42:45 · answer #6 · answered by annette 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, it's weird. That's marriage in name only. Were they even monogamous under that arrangement? It's only a matter of time for them to stray if they have been up to this point.
I suspect that if you find the right man, the hesitancy to live together will go away. In the meantime, you're enjoying your freedom. Use that time to take care of yourself and enjoy the opportunities it allows you.
2006-12-10 04:58:07 · answer #7 · answered by You'll Never Outfox the Fox 5 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Nah, its not weird. Its your life, and you should not have to be uncomfortable in your own home to make someone else happy. When you do find that new love, explain your plans and then go with the flow!
2006-12-10 04:59:20 · answer #8 · answered by melody g 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, not at all. Some people actually enjoy living alone. And that couple in separate apts. is pretty interesting. I know a few people who do that and they are totally satisfied with it. I would enjoy living alone myself.
2006-12-10 04:57:06 · answer #9 · answered by Cuddly Lez 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
People take 3 secoond to fall in love, but may take 30 years to learn how to live together. It's always nice to be in love, but tough to live together.
2006-12-10 13:39:10 · answer #10 · answered by Tan D 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋