i've met a man who is older than me. well, he's about my father's age. at first i haven't thought about having a relationship with him. but after i have hnown him closely i realised that he is a special person, that he knows many things and makes me feel very confortable when i'm with him.
but he told me that he wanted us to be more than friends and confessed he's in love with me.
i didn't really know how to react because i wasn't expecting to it, so i didn't answer for the moment . i'm very attached to him, maybe as a father, maybe as a friend or a lover i don't seem to realize it now.
but, anyway, this feeling is very confusing because, no matter what kind of feeling it might be, i care about him and i wouldn't like us to drift apart.
my friends say that he's too old for me and i should get out with guys of my age, because i might regret years after.
but would it be wrong to have a relationship with an older man? could this affect our friendship?
what do you think about it?
2006-12-10 04:45:45 · 20 answers · asked by AnneMarie 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
well i've had a relationship of the same sort, out of curiosity rather than because i was in love. he was really intelligent and knew much more than i which was a big advantage cause i don't like silly guys and he was also great in bed and would do anything i'd ask him to and i also was ready to tell my parents i was going to leave them and move to another city to be with him. but then i came to think it over and said i wanted to think whether it was worth it and you know! i realised it wasn't love or anything i was like you just "attached" to this man. this will happen with anybody you like so dear go for it only if you accept it won't last for long
2006-12-10 05:02:23 · answer #1 · answered by Miami 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Hey, be careful. This artful old Man is taking you for a ride. If he is as good as you say he is, why hasn't he got a stable relationship for so long. It would be a different thing if he is super rich. In that case go for him after making sure that he pledges a chunk of his property to you BEFORE marriage. Consult an attorney for a proper contract.
Otherwise RUN. Do not allow him near you.
I think as someone else thinks, that he is a dirty old man and you are not a gold digger!
2006-12-10 13:02:39 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
I guess if you aren't underage yourself, and if you are secure enough with yourself, then maybe it could work. He just has so many years full of experiences that you don't have. I think I would feel a little uncomfortable just because of that. I wouldn't want to feel like I had to be somebody's tag-a-long puppy. So I hope you can be able to feel as if your life won't have to revolve around him just because he's older and he's done more stuff. I guess what I'm saying is that if it's an equal, give and take partnership, it just might work. Good luck.
2006-12-10 13:02:27 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first i am dating a man that is 12 years older then me right now and was in a relationship with a man befor this one that was 13 yr older. My outlook on dating older men is this thay are more mature and know how to treat a lady right. Thay have good work ethic and are interested in you not going out with there friends. the down side to dating older men is this thay become over protective of you and dont want you to have friends, thay become more like a dad and tend to treat you like thay treat there kids. my advice to you is this you should date in you age group you must be quit young and you have a lot of life to live and you wont be able to live life to its fullest dating a older man. I think ther must be somthing rong with this man wanting to be with a girl that is 30 yr younger then him you need to be very carful!!! there is more then meets the eye with this guy.
2006-12-10 13:06:16 · answer #4 · answered by Becky M 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hard to say......what's your ages? That makes a bit of a difference. Even tho, 30 years is a slight too many. I think you are getting friendship and pity mixed up. Stay a close friend if you want and see what happens
2006-12-10 12:52:43 · answer #5 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
What's ur age?? Sounds like u r too young. Avoid this type of relationship. Let him be ur elder group frnds. U still do not know that "r u in love with him or not?". Sometimes it may be temporary. There many cases like this. It's upto u to decide. Talk to ur mom or elder sister and take advise from them. Becarefull!!
2006-12-10 12:51:51 · answer #6 · answered by technomix 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well having oldr guys are an advantage becuz they know how to treat you well and can be very romantic and undertsanding. They have experience and are more patient then other guys...
But the disadvantage is that your unexperienced. he knows some stuff that you dont and that could put you in a vulnerable state.
after you've considered both of the pros and cons then you think about it and decide. Dont let your friends decide for you, its your life your thinking about.
2006-12-10 12:50:18 · answer #7 · answered by rhea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Love doesn't decide for us the age. That's just a number- I would keep it as friends for now and really think about your statement as to whether you feel for him as father figure or prominent love in your life.
2006-12-10 12:49:48 · answer #8 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
yes yes and yes....he is way too old for you...yes, a physical relationship will effect your friendship and yes it would be wrong to do this......even friendship is weird with this kind of an age difference....I am afraid that this is a man that you should stay far away from...good luck and be careful
2006-12-10 12:50:28 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
YES IT COULD HE IS OLD ENOUGH TO BE MY KIDS GRAMPA. not trying to ruin his game but older men are about mind control and sucking the youth out of young people nowadays. honestly you can find some one your own age leave that mess alone. image if he were to sporatically pass away and you had five children by him. how would you take care of yourself and his offspring.
2006-12-10 12:51:56 · answer #10 · answered by deserealee 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋