i m in a committed relationship for over a year and a half now. but each time my girlfriend speaks to any other guy, for watever reason, i tend to upset myself thanks to my possessiveness. she receives a lot of sms's from guys who claim to be her fans etc, which again makes me insecure at times. also i know of a few guys who are nice to her(more nice to her than other girls) n when she speaks to them, i get possessive! one of those guys s a close friend of mine who once had a crush on her!
the more i try to not take things seriously n too much to heart, the more i m unable to control myself n often it stresses me out like hell. worst part s tat though i tel her when i feel possessive, i jus cant let her know tat she s one of the reasons tat i get stressed out, cos i know she ll feel very very hurt for no real fault of her own!
anyone, pls can u advice how i should deal with my possessiveness? thanks so much!
2006-12-10 04:21:22 · 9 answers · asked by sunny 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Stop , stop , stop , You will loose her listen to me I have a daughter right now that is leaving her husband of 23 years because he has domanated her so long and wouldnt let her wear clothes that she looked good in , the music the movies , nothing she was not aloud to talk to men of any kind not to say he couldnt talk to women he did please stop you will loose her if she didnt want to be with you she wouldnt be there , so love her be proud of her that other people talk to her and know you are the one who is with her please be proud you are the one put your head up and know she is yours and they are out of luck she is with you , but dont try to own someone we , no one owns no one
2006-12-10 04:34:31 · answer #1 · answered by janice a 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Possessiveness Sms
2016-12-18 06:05:06 · answer #2 · answered by tabbitha 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds to me like you may have an issue with self confidence. You must tell yourself that you are what she wants, and who she wants and she will always love you no matter how many guys are nice to her.
Counseling may help somewhat too. You must do something quick, the kind of feelings you are describing can be very very damaging to a relationship. Put your trust and faith not only in her, but in yourself too. Be there for her, and consider her feelings and her needs and tell her that she means everything to you, then again look for all those things in her too.
2006-12-10 04:25:56 · answer #3 · answered by babydoll121070 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You ought to study to believe him. A well dating might want well communique nevertheless it additionally values believe as good . If your boy buddy fairly loves you and is fairly critical approximately you...then you don't have anything to worry. Yet if you happen to consider that there's a few area among the 2 of you...then you definately have to speak to him approximately it. like inform him your present hindrance and ask him if he nonetheless desires to be your boy buddy. Honesty and fact might harm however now not up to lies and hidden discomfort. Good Luck! Hope that helped.
2016-09-03 09:00:13 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know its hard, but you have to overcome it. It has to come from within. Nobody can really tell you how. It's mind over matter. Just think that it's consuming you and you want to be stronger than that. If you can't overcome this, you might want to end the relationship because you will end up losing her anyway if you keep up this behavior.
2006-12-10 04:26:47 · answer #5 · answered by MoMoney23 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to learn not to con troll her. Give her some space and show her you trust her. You can squeeze someone so tight they will explode and you will loose her completely. Your just stressing yourself out out for a great fall. If she loves you then she will be faithful. Good Luck Pem
2006-12-10 04:32:53 · answer #6 · answered by Patricia M 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
i used to be just like u. but what always helps me is to say to my self i got her and I'm the she is climbing into bed with. plus u have to under stand girls will have allot of guy friends because guys are more loyal to them. unlike some women.
but in a nut shell u have to get used to it. sounds like u really like this girl and if u don't your going to lose her proven fact.there is a time to get jealous and a time to under stand u will find out the diff just like i did but for your sake i hope it's not to late like me.
2006-12-10 04:30:38 · answer #7 · answered by ryan s 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well,i've been to that stage before, eventually you'll get tired of it, cause you're hurting yourself.. find time to talk to her about this issue then both of you should make some adjustments.. you'll just have to trust her with all your heart, and don't be jealous cause she's yours ^_^ they can't have intimate time with her, only YOU can
2006-12-10 04:28:46 · answer #8 · answered by autopilot 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
stop being a dumb ***
2006-12-10 04:23:24 · answer #9 · answered by RC Cola 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋