There is a girl whom i love more than anyone in the world. She was my classfellow and She was a very brilliant student. She won too many medals in academics (we were in a medical college together, becoming doctors). I told her that i love her two years ago and asked for her hand in marriage. She said she loved me too. She agreed but her parents resisted my proposal. She became so upset by her parents attitude and failed in a single postgraduate exam six times. For all this while i was with her, beside her, helping her, encouraging, loving and caring for her all this time. But just a week ago she messaged me and said that it's been me responsible for all her failures and told me that she's breaking up as our relationship was not a blessing rather is a curse as its hindering her progress in life. We broke up. I don't know why but all this while there was not a single day she didn't say "I LOVE YOU" 10 times. Do you think that in true love you blame the one you love for all your failures?
2006-12-10 04:00:43 · 12 answers · asked by Dr. Sam 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Yes! I believe right now it's a down point for her. She's having troubles in the area in which she wants to succeed in and with her parents persistence, they've probably persuaded her into believing that you're responsible for her failure.
Sometimes in life, we're actually not meant to do things. However, right now, she has no one else to blame but you. She's upset and most likely an emotional wreck because she just can't get something that she truly wants. It's hurting her so, as does misery loves company, she's making you miserable.
Right now, she may actually believe that you are the reason she has been unable to pass this exam... but with time, she'll come back and realize she made a mistake. There's nothing more you can do but let her go... because if she comes back it was meant to be. If she doesn't come back then it's her loss.
I understand it's probably a heart dropping experience for you... but sometimes people get so down that they have nothing better to do then blame the ones that mean the most to them.
2006-12-10 04:17:19 · answer #1 · answered by ♪Msz. Nena♫ 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She is upset overwhelmed and I believe she does love you with all her heart, but feels she has no one else to blame but you. When really should needs to take a good look in the mirror and be upset with herself for letting a. her parents chose her life, B. failing her tests, C. blaming you for it all. You sound like you are really in love and a great guy. I say try to get her to see the real picture but if she can't then maybe she was right this love is a curse. And that is her fault and NOT yours. Good luck Bud!
2006-12-10 12:06:56 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Acknowledge that you are sorry that she is unable to sustain a relationship with you and achieve academic excellence at the same time.
That we all have limitations and capacities and that you were loving me more than yourself and your school work and that you appreciate that and respect her for being prudent and realizing her limitations and priorities.
That you agree that breaking off is a good idea at this time so that you can complete your education as this is the best time for doing that, and that you want the best for her.
That you want to take up your relationship again when she is ready and capable with everyone's blessings. Until then you are waiting or want to be free to see other girls (your choice).
There is no argument. You either respect her decision and move on or wait.
Hope this helps!
2006-12-10 12:23:19 · answer #3 · answered by TransformYour.World 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No, you do not blame true love for your failures...
It sounds like you interfered in the progress of her goals and while she may have had feelings for you and no matter what you did that you thought was good...her goals were much more important. You apparently were more of a hindrance than a help...if she was that smart but failed her graduate exam 6 times then you really were interfering....and she grew tired of it.
Time to move on to a new relationship....let this one go.
2006-12-10 12:11:09 · answer #4 · answered by Mikey ~ The Defender of Myrth 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey dude, if she's gonna be blaming you for her failures then there is no point in even remember her name. Forget her. You wouldnt want to live with someone that blames you for everything that goes wrong in her life right??? I mean if she can't handle her own emotions and has to pin her own faults on someone else she is not worth you being upset over. You as a doctor should know that this chick is emotional unstable and needs to see a psychologist for her emotion problem. Think about it.
2006-12-10 12:08:12 · answer #5 · answered by funkucla!!! 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
No. I believe that in true love--your loved one can be blamed because of the pressure and the stress of situations surrounding you. Give her some time--and let her know you're there for her and that you love her with all of your heart. Blessings.
2006-12-10 12:05:08 · answer #6 · answered by smeezleme 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have a difficult situation there. I understand why she would blame you, you tend to hurt the people closest to you when you're angry. I wouldn't say that she doesn't love you, because just from your description it sounds like it does. Stick by her, help her out. Not just studying but with the stress that this situation with her parents. Good luck.
2006-12-10 12:36:08 · answer #7 · answered by singlesynapsesyndrome 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
She might feel resentful towards you and blame you for her failing. But it wasn't your fault. Her parents might have put all kinds of thoughts in her head and that's probably why she feels the way she does. I hope you can change her mind.
2006-12-10 12:09:00 · answer #8 · answered by Ray 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it either wasn't true love, and after a while it only become something normal to tell you i love you so often....or...it has something to do with her parents....i think you should talk to her again...and try to make her to be honest with you....and tell you what really happened....I think that if you truly love someone...you would never blame him/her for your failures...NEVER!..you would only make it work somehow....for both of you!....good luck...and take care of you!
2006-12-10 12:09:57 · answer #9 · answered by mariapas_89 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This was not right on her part she took her frustrations on you so let her be and let her pass this test someday she will wake up and realize what she did was stupid and was said out of stress so be patient if its really meant to be she will come back to you
2006-12-10 12:05:22 · answer #10 · answered by AngelVirgo9206 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋