I was with my (first) girlfriend for almost 4 years, she annoyed me but, you know, it happens in relationships. I was going through some emotional problems (borderline manic depressive) so I told her I needed some space, the whole thing got out of hand and I ended up dumping her. This was about 4 months ago and I havent stopped thinking about her, I did the whole clingy, whiny, apologetic thing and just ended up pushing her away. She has a new man now and I think she's happy, I go to sleep every night thinking about her and she's the first thing on my mind when I wake up. We're still friends but I'm not sure I can be without wondering if I still have a chance. I must say I am fairly sucessful with the ladies and have had several girls since we split but I still cant keep my mind off her for long. What do I do?
2006-12-10 03:29:26 · 9 answers · asked by wild boar 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
If you have problems with borderline manic depressive, you may want to focus on yourself for at least a year before you seek to get in any serious relationship or you will likely repeat the past. If you've had several girls in 4 months, you need to work out some issues before you seek to be in committed relationships.
2006-12-10 03:33:14 · answer #1 · answered by Faith 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You need to find out if she still has feelings for you. If she does then theres still a chance. Stop seeing other girls if you are serious about getting here back. It will just make her think that youre over her. If she does still have feelings for you let her know how you feel-without being clingy and tell her if she needs time to think about things then thats fine. This way shes more likely to contact you if you keep away from here for a while. If she doesnt have felings for you anymore than you need to leave her alone if she is happ and get over her, not easy but has to be done if thats the case.
2006-12-10 03:35:32 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, like you said it was a 4 year relationship and just ended 4 months ago. Of course you're still thinking about her, you haven't given up all your feelings towards her. Sometimes it takes longer to forget about someone depending on how much impact they had on your life. In your case, if she really seems happy with the new guy, then just be happy for her. My advice is try to stay away from her for abit, it usually helps the healing process if you don't just constantly see her. If she's happy, then you need to let go and move on.
2006-12-10 03:34:04 · answer #3 · answered by Chia Pet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You are only creepy if you continue to push her. Remember you asked for it and it is out of your hands now. You have to give her space to be with someone else. If you can't do this then you can't be her friend either. She may come back to you if she breaks up with this guy as long as you don't tick her off before then. She may not. It hurts to get dumped no matter what the reason.
2006-12-10 03:36:48 · answer #4 · answered by firefly 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Obsessive ex? Maybe! She's moved on. You might not like that but she has. If she wanted you back, she would have been there letting you know. Most women are good at expressing what they want, so if she hasn't, that might be the sign. If you really just want to know, more than wanting her back... then just ask her. She may be very straight with you and tell you what you want to hear... then that might help you decide to go after her again.
2006-12-10 03:37:15 · answer #5 · answered by Baby Me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i say you need to forget about her for now, you are the one that threw the relationship away, maybe at a later time down the road if you and her were ment to be, then you'll get back with her, but sounds like right now she got options to go out and explore other things and thats what she wants to do....let her do it and get it out of her system.....you should do the same, time will heal..
2006-12-10 03:33:21 · answer #6 · answered by bshelby2121 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
tell your mom and father. reduce off contact - you will discover that he's unable to being genuine looking or being pals, in case you save attempting to save his emotions he will interpret that as perhaps he nonetheless has a chance. heavily, although, tell a minimum of your mom and father and ideally another adults too - possibly even his mom? about his habit. that is plausible that he can nonetheless strengthen as a lot as be an adult who's able to having mature, rational relationships, yet as we talk he appears like one in each and every of those adult males that you listen about in later years: "Oh, even with got here about to bill?" "did not you listen? he's doing time for spousal abuse". best of luck. i experience he will in elementary words get over you even as he famous yet another female to obsess over, yet you're properly out of that courting.
2016-11-30 09:40:48 · answer #7 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I feel you brother. What you need is something else, find other things that you're passionate for. Do sports, play music, heck, bang other chicks will do as well.
As my PUA friend will tell you, GFTOW, and see if she's still that special.
Good luck to you brother, and happy holidays.
Btw, GFTOW stands for "go **** ten other women" :P
2006-12-10 03:37:08 · answer #8 · answered by None 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
tell your ex exactly what you just wrote and pray...please explain to her how much you love her...
2006-12-10 03:32:19 · answer #9 · answered by what??? 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋