Friends, Im in love with a muslim girl..Im hindu..the problem is you know Muslims wont accept Hindu and Hindu wont accept muslim...we are just 17....what shall we do to convince our parents for the marraige in future? In my homeeveryone knws I love this girl...but they said to me u wont marry her or else u drop us! Settle somewhere else....frm her side rather than her sister no1 knws...and her sister also said to both of us "This inter caste marriages are not possible" shall we do something else in future rather than asking our parents for approval? if they dont than? Shall we run in future? Please tell! Im really desperate!
2006-12-10 03:05:23 · 5 answers · asked by I๓ρєяเãl ãяc° ™ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
First off, you said it yourself, you're just 17 years old, don't you think it's abit too early to even think about getting married?
Then next, of course being in love is important but are you already really sure that she's the one you want to be with forever (being that your still so young and all). And, then, family is family, they will always be there for you, their love is unconditional. But when it comes to younglove, you can easily fall out of it. You have to really consider about alot of things before going forward even more into this relationship you have. It would be nice ofcourse to have love like in the movies and in the songs we hear, but real life demands hard work. Since both of you are in this situation together, do you both think that your relationship is worth both of you loosing your family?
A while ago one of my best friends got married, and I asked her, why did you decided that he is the one you wanted to marry, how did you know that he was the right one? She said, love is not just feelings, but it's also a choice. You yourself and no one else can choose who you would want to stay in love with. And once you choose, you have to stick with it and work for it. Falling in love is easy, but staying in love requires hard work and determination. So based on this, do you think that you two can stay in love in the future?
And then also there is your cultural background. Western people might find it hard to understand why is there such things as marriage only in caste and stuff. But being Asian myself I understand what your going through (although in my case, my parents are more opened to inter caste marriage). Your cultural background is a huge part of who you are. People can say, be your own person but then again how can you define that? There are certain guides and aspects in our culture that we might or might not believe in, but there is a reason for those guides to even exist. Here it would be your choice on whether or not you think the reason of those guides are reasonable to you or not. It might just be plain outrageous and stupid, and you might just be able to get your family to see it that way.
One other thing that might be in your consideration is, in the future, if you do get married, then have children, how would you raise them? Would you be guiding them with muslim beliefs or hindu beliefs? Being a religious person, you know that your beliefs are going to be a big influence on how you raise your children. And if you do it wrong, they might be torn between two places, should i go with mom to the mosque, or with dad to the temple?
By far this is the longest answer I've ever wrote. I hope it helps even just the slightest.
2006-12-10 03:17:01 · answer #1 · answered by Chia Pet 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Are you really willing to lose everything for this girl? Well if you are, then you are in a tough situation. I'm guessing you live in India. I'd suggest that once you are married, move somewhere where a inter-religious marriage like yours would be accepted like the US or somewhere in Europe. Good luck! Its a hard situation, but the two of you are handling it very well.
2006-12-10 11:11:33 · answer #2 · answered by Flagstones925 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My advice is do what you want to. If it makes you happy, marrage is fine. If you love her and know she is great, who cares what other people think, as long as you and her are happy and love each other, that is all that matters
2006-12-10 11:10:34 · answer #3 · answered by kramerscoffeetables 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If race or creed matters... Marry within your own.
Next question?
2006-12-10 11:07:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 2⤋
screw them. if you succumb to their pressure, you'll just be contributing to this disease known as prejudice. if you really think she's The One, i say elope.
2006-12-10 11:09:23 · answer #5 · answered by janicebks 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋