Friends, im in relationship with a girl last 1 year "thnx 2 god" i love her a lot and she also says she loves me! Nw the problem is im not able to trust my gf...as whenever her phone use to b in busy tone...i use to think she might b talking 2 a guy! She use to say that she have to study nd all so she cnt talk bt suddenly when i kalled her back after 10 minutes..her phone use to be in busy mode! Finally after 1 hr of busy tone when she receives her phn..she use to say she's talking to her friend..a girl! We had fight also regarding "the misunderstanding of mine"...she use to say "if I've any intension 2 leave you, dan I can do so before also"...she said she loves me..im feared! Is she's flirting? What shall I do to beat this insecurity!? She swears the god..she wont leave me...and promised me everything! Her friends also knws she loves me bt Im nt able to make my mind! Everytime i think she might be having a different bf...is it possible? pls help! what shall I do?
2006-12-10 03:00:37 · 21 answers · asked by I๓ρєяเãl ãяc° ™ 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Be a man.
You know she needs her space, you've herd her reassure you (over and over...with all those promises too) so what more do you want?
respect her choice of privacy. ask her whats interesting that she's been doing 'in the i'm interested in you tone'. Not the I want to control tone'. Tell her your worries and admit your afraid of loosing her.
She'll try to understand, and if she does appreciate it. Maybe make a deal that for her privacy, you get to go out more, or she has to hang out more. its a great deal and it shows how you can compromise.
2006-12-10 03:08:21 · answer #1 · answered by rhea 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like she is lying to you. Which i wouldn't be surprised. If she said she was studying and said she couldnt talk, but was talking to someone else, that shows you what her priarities r. People say i love you all the time, and you might mean it, but she might not. I said i love you all the time to my ex, but i didn't mean it. But i didn't know that then. After him and me had a huge fight i realized that he wasn't the one. If you can't totally trust her then shes not the one. Trust has every thing to do with a relationship. Good Luck. Its hard, but you will get through it. I promise! =)
2006-12-10 11:10:43 · answer #2 · answered by morglovsya 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Well hey well what i think is that if u really love her and she really loves u then u shouldn't be so scare that she could leave u for someone else u should be able to trust her b/c if thers no trust then thers nothing of yall relationship so just take it easy and dont worry to much.
2006-12-10 11:06:10 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to calm down and relax. If you keep on accusing her of cheating on you she's going to get tired and break up with you. You should stop being so insecure, it's not attractive. She should be allowed to talk to other people on the phone if she wants to. That doesn't mean she doesn't love you. Give her some room to breathe.
2006-12-10 11:06:27 · answer #4 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
look just calm down and be sure she loves u and dont talk to other guys for simple reason
if she doesnt like u she may be able to say " ok, get out from my life i have a new love "
but u dont trust her
just surprise her and act as not care and as u trust her
and may be she try to drive u jealous about that to test ur love to her
u too can also make ur fone busy with any way
2006-12-10 11:05:31 · answer #5 · answered by micho 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'I TRUST YOU--is a better compliment than "i love you" cause you may not always trust the one you love but belive me you can always love the person that you trust for the rest of your life.'
If you always doubt the person you love then what is really left to the relationship. If you always doubt her it will always lead to misunderstanding -- relationship will not grow that way.
You need to communicate to her ask her about what you feel and what she feel about what you feel--weird.. Be open to one another
Now if she is really flirting then there is no reason for you to cling to her. There are so many girls in this world that can be faithfull to you so as long as that you will be faithfull as well.
Have a Happy Love life
2006-12-10 11:07:42 · answer #6 · answered by meaurge 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should trust her because you can't have a relationship without trust. She probably was talking to a girl on the phone I mean we all know how girls love to talk.
2006-12-10 11:06:32 · answer #7 · answered by terrianna101 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to trust her if you really love or loving her at all is not right ..
You love her and you are afraid to lose her but honestly if you continue accusing her ,she'd leave you sooner or later .
Think positive and don't try to control her ,girls don't like to be controlled ,if you really think she's flirting with others on the phone so whats your reason to love her ?
2006-12-10 11:09:30 · answer #8 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is you can't trust her....then the relationship is pretty frusterating. If she promises, then you should trust her; if you love her.
You should take her word for it, unless you know positivly otherwise.
Maybe she is really talking to friends or family?
Just trust her for a little while.
Good Luck & Happy Holidays! :-)
2006-12-10 11:05:37 · answer #9 · answered by ♥Charming's Princess♥ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just stop calling her so much. Go hang out with the fellas and let her contact you. If you have no trust in her, the relationship is pretty much snowballing.
2006-12-10 11:06:35 · answer #10 · answered by MisterChris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋