hey everyone! here's my problem, i'm 19 and when it comes to relationships i'm an absolute nightmare! but there's this guy i met at the pub i work at, i thought there was a mutual attraction. been out a few times with friends (usually on his terms) but he came to the pub when i was working the other night and i had a killer throat so didnt really talk to him much. i think he thinks i was ignoring him, especially because i was little pushy during the week on the fact that he never comes out with me when i ask him. think i've upset him. i do really like him! i text him after work and asked why he left without saying goodbye but i didnt get a reply. should i text him again explaining i was ill, or leave it? do you think he even likes me, as i feel like most things are always on his terms? we never go out together alone... advice!!!! thanks xxxxxxx
2006-12-10 02:59:24 · 20 answers · asked by lilsam 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
i won't give you the answer you want to hear, but I will give you my opinion anyway. No leave this guy, if he was that bothered he would have had the manners to text or phone you back.
Don't go running after him because he will use and abuse you.
You are 19 and have got loads of years in front of you to play the field. Go and enjoy yourself, find someone else to snog when your throat feels better. Be happyxx
2006-12-10 03:36:52 · answer #1 · answered by currynut 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This is probably a horrible thing to say but thereis a risk that he doesnt like you because you havent been out together alone. But then again it could be that he's upset and doesnt know how to deal with the situation. If i were you I would call him up and eplain that you weren't feeling too good. And take it from there but thats the most important thing let him know. And also tell him how you feel about him that will give him a chance to show you how he feels. It might work out, it might not. All the best.
2006-12-10 11:05:09 · answer #2 · answered by peas and cheese 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Give him some space, i wouldnt bother texting him yet, maybe next time he comes into the pub, just be general with him, ask him how is he, drop into it that youve been under the3 weather lately.
why are you beating yourself up over him, everything you just said was really about how YOU may of upset him, and how YOU have caused an issue..... so!?!?!
he seems to upset u without even knowing it! everything on his terms, he lets you down, and then he leaves without saying bye!
i think this guy has you wrapped around his finger, he says jump and u say how hi?!
be alittle stronger and firmer with him, im sure ur a nice girl, and there are loads of men after you. but is this guy worth all the pressure and hassel?!
2006-12-10 11:06:42 · answer #3 · answered by geminially 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He's playing games. You need to play back. Your sore throat could have been a blessing if you'd played your cards right. you could have done the classic treat em mean keep em keen. But you text him, and now he thinks you are besotted with him, so he doesn't have to try.
Give him a wide birth for a while always be busy, but be flirty or understanding when you get the chance. Leave the ball in his court, he knows you are interested now, so let him do some work. if he doesn't then you know that he wasn't that into you in the first place.
2006-12-10 11:05:47 · answer #4 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He doesn't fancy you. Give him a miss. If this guy isn't falling over himself to have YOUR company, then there must be a reason...Be it low self-esteem, mental problems, girlfriend/wife at home, gay, etc...The list goes on.
If you're an attractive, fun and interesting person, then it's his loss. Don't chase him because the prize won't be worth it.
Go out with YOUR friends. Enjoy those things that make YOU happy and you probably won't be interested in him if he's as sad as he sounds.
Ask yourself what you'll have when and if he does decide to go out with you? What do you want from this guy?
When you answer those questions you won't be bothered with him.
Good luck.
2006-12-10 11:13:56 · answer #5 · answered by KD 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
People who like to be on their terms are insecure enough to let things be under the terms of other people. That way they have a feeling of power over someone and being in control, especially if it is about liking someone (the situation where you might easily lose your control). I wouldn't suggest you to write him another sms, you wrote him once, that's enough. You don't have to explain things about yourself. He knows where to find you. Now you should wait how he will react. And stay determined about your own terms. Good luck! :)
2006-12-10 12:28:40 · answer #6 · answered by Psychologist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
seriously just leave it other wise its like ur chasing after him and that is not attractive he may feel that ur comin on strong , u shouldnt have said anything about him not going anywhere with you cos it makes it look like u got nothing else to do just be nice and subtley show him u like him but let him make a move and stop being impatient! read the rules avail in whsmith
2006-12-10 11:04:28 · answer #7 · answered by jaydyne f 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Do not text him explaining - he will think you are a nutter.
He will probably become more interested if you ease off a bit. If not he's not that interested anyway. Leave it to him to get in contact, he's already ignored one text and therefore if you send another one he will tell his mates he has a stalker.
2006-12-10 11:02:00 · answer #8 · answered by delphi13 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Just forget about him hun. Someone that needs escorts on a date is sad. Find yourself someone that you can communicate with on equal terms...........relationships have to be 2 way things......and if he's pig headed enough to ignore your text then sod him's what i say.
Good luck in your search to find someone that you appreciates you and has time for you.
2006-12-10 11:38:18 · answer #9 · answered by crazeeladee no more 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Just leave it.
Play hard to get. I think you've given him enough chances already.
If you've already asked him out and he's refused. ...What are you wasting your time at?
Get real! If he'd have wanted you, he'd have made a move by now.
By laying off, see him do some running for a change. Supposing he wants to, that is.
2006-12-10 11:04:04 · answer #10 · answered by Moorglademover 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋