On Thursday night, I went out with this really great girl whom I met on JDate.com. She's 24, I'm 25 and she is a h.s. art teacher while studying for her Masters in ESL ed. I also work m-f 9-6 with an hour's commute. Anyway, we had a really good time and by the time we left, we had already mentioned a few times that we'd like to see each other again. When we left each other, her eyes lit up a bit and she said, "Yeah! Absolutely! I'd really like that. Yeah, I really would like that." So, I called her yesterday around 5 and asked her if she'd like to go out again. When we first started talking, she said again that she'd had a great time, asked what's up and I asked her if she'd like to meet up again. She said she really would but knows she's gonna be very busy and has to see what her schedule is like. If not this week, then maybe the following week. Isn't that a while for someone to want to see another person they SAY they had a great time with? The schedule bit is the oldest in the book.
2006-12-10 02:51:45 · 12 answers · asked by justellemJimsaidhello 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Plus, she didn't say really when she was gonna call and let me know. Am I supposed to just hope she calls? Or, is she trying to blow me off...I sure hope she's not because at the end of our date, she put her hand around me and gave me a great hug while I gave her a short kiss on the cheek...it was really nice...
2006-12-10 02:53:15 · update #1
Also, it adds up right because she wasn't on JDate all the way from July until late November. I had emailed her back then a couple of times and then she suddenly disappeared. When I contacted her again last month, she said right away that we could might up and apologized for going poof but that she didn't have time for jdate and phone messages and the like. So, I do believe she's busy but is she making it as a convenient excuse? How could she? She seemed to really like me....
2006-12-10 02:56:24 · update #2
Give it one more try in the next week or so. If she hasn't called you in 8 or 10 days, call her back and let her know you were just thinking about her and wanted to know how she's doing. That may lead to coffee, or lunch. But it IS the season, and she DOES work AND go to school, so cut her some slack on the time thing. I know as a single, working parent, there was a LONG time period when I wanted a relationship, I just literally didn't have TIME for one! Give her little bits of time choices to see you, like brunch on a Sunday, or coffee on your day off one week. She may really want to see you, but just cannot squeeze in the time right now for a date. If she doesn't respond the next time you try, you might want to rethink your situation. Perhaps she DID have a good time, but the greatness of it scared her in some way. Perhaps she met someone she likes better since you saw her last. Perhaps she has lost someone she loves to death or sickness and is distraught... you never know until you try again! Good luck!!
2006-12-10 03:02:36 · answer #1 · answered by themom 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I'm actually living the same thing as you ! She's completing her Master Degree in microbiology and she said she'd like to see me again over the phone last week. But, she's not answering to my emails. And I do not want to bother her ... so I don't know. She's not yet in love with you, she just is willing to see you back. Let her do what she has to do, call her in some times, and try to see if you could see her in a week or two. Maybe she won't be busy this weekend.. let her time! :D
2006-12-10 10:55:49 · answer #2 · answered by eth1_hifi 2 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I'm in teacher's college right now, and I can tell you that if she's working in a high school AND studying for her masters, her schedule is going to be tighter than the President's.
Trust me on this one - I have gone through entire MONTHS where I didn't have time to go out with my WIFE whom I live with, I was just too busy writing lesson plans or grading papers.
I'd take her word for it...and realize that even if she's very attracted to you, her work comes first. She may not be able to give you the amount of time you're hoping for, at least until she finishes her master's.
2006-12-10 10:55:19 · answer #3 · answered by Dilettante 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
That is a tough call. It could be she was agreeing with you during the date, just to avoid a potential problem.
It also could be she is interested, but she wants to see how much of an effort you will put into seeing her.
It does sound like her schedule is full from what you have said. It doesn't sound as if she is making that up, after all, you said she is a teacher and also in school, that is probably limiting her free time, so I would trust her that she is telling you the truth, unless you have a reason not to trust her.
I would not recommend that you become too attached just after one date. It makes you look desperate. Just be patient, and don't rush into a relationship, it takes time.
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It also could be she is reading yahoo answers and now you have just blown it !!!
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2006-12-10 10:53:22 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 2⤋
A Masters is a nice way to suck up time, especially if she has problems staying on deadlines. I think she did have a good time, and that she does want to see you, but that she's going to be busy for the next little while.
Give her a call later in the week, just to chat and let her set the next date.
2006-12-10 10:54:37 · answer #5 · answered by mikah_smiles 7 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Look for someone else to go out with. If she doesn't have time to date right now, then look for someone that does. You shouldn't sit around waiting for her to give you a couple hours of her time.
2006-12-10 10:57:09 · answer #6 · answered by mamabear 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really wouldn't worry....WE don't want to sound too available. Keep trying w/ DEFINITE plans. Have a specific place in mind & ask her. If she doesn't want to go then ask her ONE MORE TIME about a week later. If she refuses
SHE'S JUST NOT THAT INTO YOU..AND MOVE ON.
2006-12-10 10:56:10 · answer #7 · answered by Mee-OW =^..^= 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
You just met this girl, only had one date and you're ALREADY questioning if she's lying to you? Great start! Good luck with that!
It's called TRUST. Either you have it or you don't. Poor girl, if she's telling you the truth and your doubting her, she needs to RUN RUN RUN away from YOU!!!
:)
2006-12-10 10:55:34 · answer #8 · answered by Boodie 5 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Expect the worst bro. Once you get that phone call it'll be golden.
2006-12-10 10:58:34 · answer #9 · answered by MisterChris 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
it might just be an excuse to get out of all of it and then u'll find her saying "sorry i can't i'm moving to china"just get the truth out of her find out if she really like u or not, and then, tell her how u feel about her doing that
2006-12-10 10:54:56 · answer #10 · answered by allison d 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋