I been dating my boyfriend now for 5yrs. He recently joined the military and is stationed in Texas. I live in Louisiana and he wants me to come out there to live with him. my mother says that I am old enough (19) to move but dosent want me to move far away from her. She thinks I'm moving to another city but I want to go to Texas. Me and her are very close and I'm the only girl. What should I do or say?
2006-12-10 02:36:51 · 19 answers · asked by jaylee 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
well first make sure that you really are positive about moving away from your mom.
If you are then take her out for coffee or something, and start a conversation, and just bring the subject up, i'm not saying that , that way she won't get hurt or anything she will anyway you'll tell her. But for now, you can try doing that.You'r old enough and she should trust you.
2006-12-10 02:40:36 · answer #1 · answered by allison d 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You'll have been dating long enough take the next step and move down with him if it dont work ( god forbid that) you can always go back. Tell your mom the truth there is no need for lying you all are adults. Even though you are the only girl shouldnt keep you from doing what you want. You have your own life to live. Just let your mom know how you feel and everything should work out for the best. GOODLUCK
2006-12-10 02:50:38 · answer #2 · answered by Evie 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2016-12-30 05:26:59 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hey im your age and I'm ready to leave too. You are an adult, but you will always be your moms little baby. So respect her feelings but I do think you should tell her, just in case anything goes wrong, you can come back home on GOOD terms. You dont want to END your relationship with your mom in order to keep a relationship with a boyfriend, do you? So a woman, you need to tell her that this is something that will make you really happy and that you want her support.
2006-12-10 02:45:38 · answer #4 · answered by Lovely*~*Layla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well, it is hard to tell your mother that you are moving out with your boyfriend, but please remember that she too had the same hardship to tell her mother that she was in love and moving out with her boyfriend. Do it by asking your mother what she thinks of persons moving out of the house to live with their boyfriend, take it from there and slowly tell her that you are think that it is high time for you to do the same. It will not be easy, but I believe that if she knows that the guy is a serious person and not an opportunist, she will consent. Good luck!
2006-12-10 02:44:41 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You have to live your own life, and cannot base everything on what every one else thinks.. You and your mom can still be very close.. You can still talk on the phone, and visit. If you want to go be with your boyfriend, then go.. Be happy, and Good Luck..
2006-12-10 02:42:48 · answer #6 · answered by Indymom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's your choice. Texas isn't that far. You guys can call each other almost everyday. But I understand ...It's not like you actually being there. But trust me,, do what makes you happy. Your mom will miss you but at the same time, she will be there for you.
2006-12-10 02:40:59 · answer #7 · answered by peanut44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Want to avoid lots of problems, drama, and anguish??? Tell her how much you 2 are in love and show her your engagement ring. Then discuss your wedding plans. Otherwise, you're just shacking up until someone else comes along.
Good Luck
2006-12-10 02:41:33 · answer #8 · answered by snvffy 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think you should tell her that this is something that you want to do. Let her know that you'll try to visit her as often as possible and you will call her as often as she needs to hear your voice. Invite her to go with to drop you off. Or try to fit in a mother/daughter trip together before you leave.
2006-12-10 02:40:52 · answer #9 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
'mum im 19 years old now and old enought to make my own decisions...thanks for all you've done but its my choice and ive decided to move out to texas to be with my boyfriend'
2006-12-10 02:39:46 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋