I have been in a relationship for 4.5 years, and it hasn't been a dream. When we started, we clicked really well, and were living together after 6 months. She is 3 years older, and had told me the "i love you" line early off, but I held off, until we started living together, since I figured I loved her, if I was going to live with her.
From the start, stuff just didn't make sense, and I always said, well, it must be me, and my feelings, that makes me wonder what she is doing behind my back.
Finally, I busted her emailing her ex, the one she said she hated and was stalking her(6mths). She said she didn't talk to him anymore,and that was months prior. She lied about having another bank account, but I was smooth, and just asked her, if she had another account, since I was thinking about get another one, from the joint we had. She said no,but she did. She moved away to live with her mom this mth w 2 family losses, but she is lying about where she eats now. wow!
Should I just dump her now?
2006-12-10 02:32:10 · 11 answers · asked by daniyel95 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Honey if she is lying to you then either she doesn't trust you not to hurt her, or she is just holding onto you until something better comes along. I hate to say it but some women just want the money. If she moved away from you, have you checked your bank account? You might need to draw some money out! (the joint one) You need to get it over with...without trust there is nothing. If you can't trust her now you never will. Being constantly suspicious of someone is no way to carry on for the rest of your life. It may be hard but it will be better in the long run.
2006-12-10 02:43:32 · answer #1 · answered by angela k 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The one thing I cannot stand is lies. If any partner lies to you, they are breaking one of the most important strongpoints in a relationship; Honesty.
Why lie about something so small? If she lies to you now about where she eats, you can only imagine what she would lie about if anything else were to happen in the future. Why would anyone be in a one sided relationship.
If you catch her once, let it slide, twice you have a reason to be upset... 3 times is a goodbye. Since she is having family related issues at the moment, don't give her any added stress. Definately break up with her though. I suggest lot's of nights out with the boys! Poker anyone?
2006-12-10 02:45:30 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boy those are in simple terms excuses.. you are attempting to justify the terrible element you probably did to ur fiancee ("I even have conventional this different woman for 10 years and we've alot of history, i like her to bits and that i went to ascertain her and that i wasn't making plans on something happening yet one element brought about a distinctive and we ended up in mattress.") in case you tell her you already comprehend you may anticipate her to leave you. you recognize you may continuously be forgiven yet she will continuously bear in suggestions. So in case you cheated does not it advise something.. perhaps your fiancee isn't the right woman. some issues are meant to be secret. in case you incredibly opt for her and comprehend which you will under no circumstances ever cheat on her back then do no longer tell her. it incredibly is purely going to create issues. yet once you do cheat on her back then tell her ideal away.
2016-10-05 03:12:26 · answer #3 · answered by lyon 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Now would be less expensive than later when you would need an attorney. She's keeping you guessing and she has an ongoing relationship with her ex. Does her ex happen to live near mom? Cut your losses, pack your stuff and get out. Good luck.
2006-12-10 02:37:08 · answer #4 · answered by Firespider 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The signs are all there......this is something you need not rethink walk away, shut the door move forward. No change that RUN and never look back you deserve better than what her lying ways can give you
2006-12-10 02:35:58 · answer #5 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Again, another easy answer. Would you want your wife lying and sneaking behind your back about important things? I think you can figure this out easily...as you answered it in your last sentence. Good luck and happy hunting for the woman who will respect you and be truthful....don't worry. There are plenty out there :)
2006-12-10 02:38:43 · answer #6 · answered by mastaocanasta 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
That's many more lies than should be floating around a relationship.
If you want to try to stay with her, bring it all up to her, and if she can't settle down and work it out with you, then yeah, you probably should leave her.
2006-12-10 02:35:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Boss, dump her immediately.
U deserve a better girl and someone younger than her.
2006-12-10 02:36:05 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you want to dump her anyway you don't trust her thaen no point of being together.
2006-12-10 02:36:51 · answer #9 · answered by Michelle C 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Yeah, Just dump her. Don't do anything else.
2006-12-10 02:36:57 · answer #10 · answered by arsenalsalam 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋