2006-12-10 02:26:06 · 23 answers · asked by Compton,CA 4 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
One of the main things that girls look for in guys, (whether they realize it or not), is security.
Often times when a guy is quiet and shy, this doesn't display a sense of confidence. This isn't the case always, but most often it is.
This is unfortunate for guys who are just naturally quiet-- confidence and all.
Body language can play an essential role here too.
If a guy is always shifting uncomfortably around, or playing weirdly with his hands, or sitting with his feet stacked on top of each other sideways, it might not look like he's confident.
As bad as it may sound, (but only because I take notice of small things like this for some reason), I'm attracted more when a guy is sitting confidently with his legs either one crossed horizontally on the other knee or just wide open, lol. It shows dominance.
This is not to say that girls don't notice the quiet guys. Most of us feel shy as well, and probably feel like it should be the guy to make the moves, not us- despite what we may feel.
I have been attracted to several quiet/shy guys in the past, in fact, a lot of times I find it sexy that they don't feel the need to overshine other boastful guys who proclaim stupid things like, "I can lift 3453635 lbs, I've slept with 242323 girls, my dad owns a yacht, and I have a F-350." All those things really turn me off. Especially when the guy has a big car, because I just see it as something big replacing the void of something else that isn't as big as they'd like it to be. I'm not talking about what you're probably thinking about, but rather their true self-esteem. (could be the little guy too in some cases, no doubt).
Best of luck!
2006-12-10 16:41:29 · answer #1 · answered by WiseWisher 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If a guy is shy and quiet, his chances of getting a girlfriend are very low because when a guy is quiet, people don't really know about your likes, dislikes, or personality. They just see you as a guy, possibly attractive, but nothing else. If you want a girlfriend, you're going to have to step out of your quiet "comfort zone" and take some risks by talking to girls (often). Chances are, this change will be enough to help.
Good luck!
2006-12-10 02:36:31 · answer #2 · answered by c90 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are quiet and shy the girl may not have any idea that you are interested in her. One manner might be to acquire her email address and talk with her a little bit at a time.
The other might be to break out of your shell a little bit at a time.
If your not obvious or if your not seen how is the girl supposed to know that there is interest.
Things take time and you will surely get out there when you feel ready. Watch for signs or body language that might give you a hint that the girl is interested and talk a little bit.
You would be surprised at how good it feels once you make an attempt. Good luck
2006-12-10 02:29:50 · answer #3 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Lot of good answers here. Simplest one I agree with is "nothign ventured, nothing gained" If he's not out socializing, if he's not showing his personality or "wares" to other people, why should anyone go out of their way to find out about him. The ONLY exception would be if he were incredibly attractive, and the combination of incredibly attractive and incredibly shy usually don't go together because people are going to give you so much more self confidence by paying attention to you.
So if you are just good looking or average, you can kiss any valuable relationships...or relationships that you want GOODBYE if you aren't willing to open up and share a bit of yourself.
Plus being shy and quiet makes you look uninteresting. Girls love nothing more than someone that looks interesting like they will take them places FUN.
2006-12-10 02:39:56 · answer #4 · answered by Ineedhelp 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Dude that ain't true, I'm really really shy and I'm exstreamly quiet but the only way you will ever get a girl is to try, you really don't have to talk you can just write a note or something, I'm just like that but the shy and quiet always gets the best girls.
2006-12-10 02:37:22 · answer #5 · answered by eclipsefreak 4 · 1⤊ 1⤋
Girls want a man to take charge and ask them out. Plus if you don't talk you had better be really good looking or you might seem a bit boring and not worth the time. What is the point of being shy? I used to be that way and it's just not worth it. Be outgoing, after all what is the worst thing that can happen?
2006-12-10 02:32:19 · answer #6 · answered by adi23 1 · 0⤊ 1⤋
If you are very shy and quiet, you have a tendency to fade into the background—same for girls—no gender bias here. Try wearing a backwards baseball cap, with something funny on it, or a shirt with something silly, (silly I say, not pervo!) and maybe the girls will think you are funny, yet silent and mysterious. Ya never know…
2006-12-10 02:31:54 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Sometimes a guy who is reserved(shy) gets misunderstood and women tend to think..oh look at him he thinks he is too good for me /stuck up. You just have to try to be a little more open i am not talking about jumping on top of a lady just say hi or can i buy you a drink. At least then the woman knows you are interested.
2006-12-10 02:30:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Girls like very amusing guys and other like shy guys but alot of the percentage doesnt go to shy guys. You dont really get to know if the guy is nice or a jerk. It just doesnt even out.
2006-12-10 02:29:34 · answer #9 · answered by Rachel N 3 · 0⤊ 1⤋
It's not. Shy and quiet guys just have to figure out their own way of letting girls like them. Sometimes even outgoing guys get shy around girls they like.
2006-12-10 02:43:09 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 1⤋