last week i found my son 22year old in the bed with my wife!
Both of them were naked, the yhad sex!!!! i tried to choke him but he escaped , now he has been gone for 2 days, he is at his friends house downtown, what should i do!!!!
2006-12-10 02:26:05 · 18 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
He's your son forever... women come and go... go after your wife on this one... she was older and probably went after him... tell her to hit the road now... your son... he's is young and is still learning life and the flow of how things are suppose to be... give your son time to let things cool off... go to him and forgive him... i am sure he has learned his lesson... remember he hasn't been an adult very long, only22yo and this can be a good learning experience for him when it comes to women in general... that married women or ones in a commited relationships... he has to stay clear of them or he could get killed... you need to let him know if it was another man and not his father... that man could have put a bullet in his head... he'll needs to know for sure he could get hurt if he fools with someone elses women... and like I said please forgive him... he is yoour son... good luck!!!
2006-12-10 03:41:03 · answer #1 · answered by Sandy 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Well first lets concentrate on your wife! I take it she is not his mother right? She has as much responsibility in this situation as your son has maybe more depending on the age. Both parties however are consenting adults and were equaly aware that what they were doing was wrong. Your son obviously is feeling guilty and ashamed of what he did. What excuse has your wife come up with? I would leave your son alone for the time being and maybe someday there will be a chance for you two to talk and work through his mistake. Your wife on the other hand I would put out in an instant and not think twice about it. She obviously has no concience or morals when it comes to her sexual desires. Your son is very young and naive and probably easily influenced and is probably already regretting what he did and I think will want to appologize and be forgiven by you but is probably very afraid at this time. Your wife will probably attempt this indiscretion again the first chance she gets and will make many excuses for her behavior as long as you allow it.
2006-12-10 10:41:25 · answer #2 · answered by Judy D 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
I hope like hell that you arn't lying. But if this was true, my sympathies are with you. This is a really horrible situation.
I fully agree with all the others. Women mature quickly, and have a pretty good idea of their control in relationships. Every teenage girl can put a grown manon his knees! Guys at 22 yrs, (I know from personal experience) are still trying to bluff their way into macho manhood. And are just grateful to have a woman pay attention to them. However, they are old enough to understand where to draw the line. So, I suggest the following:
(a) Kick out your wife. The ***. No talking, no excuses. Nothing. Have some self respect, and believe that nobody can abuse your sacred relationships.
(b) Let your son stew. He's acted very immature. Let him approach you to make amends. Dont soften things for him. He should be man enough to face the the music. If you are lucky, it'll make him a better and more responsible man.
Wish you the very best!
2006-12-10 11:33:12 · answer #3 · answered by Submarine_Sam 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You should have been more upset with your wife. She is the more mature adult and the one that is married to you. Think back when you were his age, and a older women would have come on to you. Your anger should be with the wife. Get rid of her she is no good and this is your son. You need to have a long talk with him, he is probably very sorry. However, most of the responsibility should be on your no good wife. God bless****
2006-12-10 10:29:24 · answer #4 · answered by ? 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He is 22 do not chase after him. What should you do? Dump your wife!!!!!!!! Your son is very immature and honestly needs his face slapped. What was he thinking? Do the two of you have a good father son relationship? I do not think you do, why would he cross over that silent boundary? Your wife needs to be booted immediately no second thought or chance. Start with her, worry about your son later.
2006-12-10 10:29:22 · answer #5 · answered by chattylady47150 3 · 2⤊ 0⤋
R u worried about you son? I hope not! I think that would be the end of the relationship if there was ever one. I think he should be embarrassed about that he even slept with his step-mom and she should be ashamed that out of all the men in this world, why would she sleep with her step-son? Get rid of her. No doubt about it. If she treats you that way, she will pretty much sleep with anybody that has a penis. Read Leviticus 20:11. I sincerely wish you the best.
2006-12-10 10:55:33 · answer #6 · answered by peanut44 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You shouldnt do anything, you did nothing wrong. You should leave your wife first of all what kind of **** is that. No matter what or under any circumstances should you cheat on someone, especially someone in the same family. Your son on the otherhand you should forgive him thats your blood. But dont go looking for him, let him come looking for you. Then you will know he really wants you to forgive him.
2006-12-10 10:33:11 · answer #7 · answered by Evie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
First of all you need to divorce your wife. That was stepping beyond her bounds.. Unfortunately she probably seduced your son. You need to have a good long talk with your son and try to find out why he did it. There is no excuse for it, he's old enough to know better.. Get rid of her and try to mend you and your sons relationship.. if its possible...
2006-12-10 10:29:53 · answer #8 · answered by Indymom 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
All mistake is of your wife, you should get seperated from such wife then your son will be back to you
2006-12-10 10:31:19 · answer #9 · answered by AWA 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to wife and then see what to do seek help in frineds cuz u wont be able to look at them twice with out bs between u to
2006-12-10 11:20:40 · answer #10 · answered by Playboy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋