I don't know why its happens recently. I have found that when they started to disrespect me..I felt really angry and the only way to calm me down was to think of sex with them. I feel so crap for thinking this way. How can I stop it? I don't want to see my gp about it..its too weird for that
2006-12-10 02:22:12 · 25 answers · asked by Mollie 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
they would just say i cannot be trusted and that I am a ***** cos I went of with a man 26 yrs older than me. he dumped me after a while but I obessed over him. I thought of him as a father figure ...but ended up being done for harrassment after 4 years of a sexual relationship with him.
2006-12-10 02:28:10 · update #1
Well it is different for sure! I expect you are thinking like this as a way of attempting to dominate them not that you actually fancy them. In your head you assume power over them by doing this. I wouldnt go to your GP about this, you are right about that. Whenever u get these thoughts think of times from your childhood like when your Dad/brother helped you with your homework/taught you how to ride a bike and this might get your thoughts away from having sex with them. Don't let it worry you cos everyone gets strange thoughts from time-to-time.
2006-12-10 02:31:34 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sexual fantasies are often a way of trying to neutralise something that upsets us- you're turning their disrespect of you into something you can control. Also, have they ever been affectionate towards you, or has the only affection you've experienced been within a sexual relationship? If so, these fantasies could be part of trying ot get the affection you crave from them. Don't feel bad about this- it sounds like you've had a bit of a crap time with men. Spend some time being single, doing things you enjoy and are good at, hanging out with friends etc. That way, you'll feel better about yourself, and get less angry when they disrespect you.
2006-12-10 11:27:23 · answer #2 · answered by noisymilly 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you have some unhealthy feelings about sex - maybe you feel you're dirty for wanting sex, so you see sex as a form of punishment. (Maybe) It could also be possible that you feel helpless when they disrespect you and the only time you feel powerful over a man is when you have sex...?
It sounds like you need to do something to turn your life around, not just deal with these fantasies - which, by the way, are fairly harmless as long as you keep them fantasy.
You could always go to a therapist and talk about your self-image or self-esteem, or just figure out why you feel a need to be punished and change that part of your life. Get a job, meet different friends, or whatever.
2006-12-10 02:35:24 · answer #3 · answered by Anonymous · 3⤊ 0⤋
Sounds like you need to see a phsyciatrist. If you went out with someone 28 yrs older its obvious that you want a substitute farther figure... what happened to the normal father daughter relationship that you have with your biological father...?
If this relationship is broken then you have no chance for future happiness.
As for the sex thing, this sounds connected to the lack of father daughter relationship.
2006-12-10 09:58:57 · answer #4 · answered by Wicked Top. 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Mollie, I think that what is going on with you is you feel alone and very insecure about your self. It is not normal at all to have feelings about your dad and brother that you have. And that man that you was with that was 26 years older than you, honey he just used you is all he did. He played upon your mind, and that was totally wrong of him to do that. Try to forget that you even knew that man. You really do need a good and true friend in your life, someone that you can talk to about how you feel and what is going on in your head, someone that you can honestly trust. You have a lot of low self esteem going on here. I will lessen if you need someone to talk to, but you really need someone that can talk to.
2006-12-10 04:14:08 · answer #5 · answered by SapphireB 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
WOO there you have issues babes .Not being rude but seriously youre dad and bro . Even if you did see a man alot older whats the harrassment bit about .
You need to just take a chill pill babes get away from the situation youre in and start again then come back when youre heads on straight cos youre heading down one very strange path and it aint good .
2006-12-10 03:36:21 · answer #6 · answered by C 3 · 1⤊ 2⤋
Sex is power - which is why you started thinking about sex with them after they made you feel powerless. Going for some counseling will help you deal with those feelings of powerlessness. Sex is not really the issue here - power is. You'll be okay - you're not crazy or demented. We all have inner self-defense mechanisms! You are just trying to protect yourself, which you have a right to do.
2006-12-10 02:37:30 · answer #7 · answered by RubyD 2 · 3⤊ 0⤋
You can't help who you are attracted to. That's just nature. It's probably the fact that he is so unavailable to you that you feel attracted in the first place. I wouldn't worry about being attracted. Yes, it is weird, and I can see why you would freak out, but the only thing you really need to worry about it actually doing something with him. That is where you need to draw the line!
2016-03-29 01:56:45 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
I really can't understand Christianity hypocrisy When u believe in Adam and Eve were those who started Human race then , it can't be possible they didn't had incest to multiply into world today(their children must have sex with each other to multiply ) .Then why the hell is incest a sin .Common sense is absent when religion comes .
2013-09-20 00:26:02 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
first of all when you get angry and need to calm down turn around and go to your bedroom, and hit a pillow. or even try going for a long walk around the block. think of what you did that you really liked doing. think of your boyfriend, or friends. Its not going to happen over night you have to work on it. good luck.
2006-12-10 02:29:25 · answer #10 · answered by misty blue 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋