Me n the ex r getting back 2gether after being a mounth apart but we are "TAKING IT SLOW" WHAT DOES THIS MEAN?

Question

me n my girl have been 2gether 4yrs after last mounth she broke it off. Then two wks later she wants back in. I open my heart n go back to were we left off. Then after coming back from a friends house she left me agian. Now after 2wks apart she calls n ask me for help, to keep her company. I go n we meet up we still are hanging out like a couple n i know she still cares for me. I play alittle hard2 get n she is in2 it. As am about to leave she is talking n i suddenly kiss her n tell her will she date me n this time lets take it slow, She agreed. after making out some more i ask how are we going 2 work this out she said "take it slow" I ask if sex was ok?"sex is ok" she said. she gets on the train n i tell her i love her she says the same thing, she calls me later that night to see what i am up2 n when we get off niether of us say "i love u" . Is this the first steps to taking it slow? how do i do this? I still love her. She told me we should not tell any1 for at least a wk?HELP me!

ok i dont think there is amy one ealse. When we were apart the 1st week i did not hear from her then i finally called her. I ask why? she said she felt differnt. She still wanted to be friends but we need to be apart for a while. I said fine. Two days later she calls me and tells me she was wonding if i could keep her company while she waits for her train to come. The rest of the week she calls me to see what is up. the night before she calls me and tells me she misses me and i acted like i was fine with it being over. and she said we'll talk about it when we meet. So after i get there we talk and we seem fine we talk about everthing. And out of nowhere i kiss her and i ask her to go out with me. she agrees and we both agreed to take it slow. She asked me what i wanted for xmas and what am i going to do this weekend. she got on the train. she called me later that night. I am trying to give her space so i promised myself not to call till monday. Any addvice?? We never played games be4

Answer 1

U sir r a victim of a "booty call"
HOW DOES IT FEEL???

Answer 2

Don't play games, then! It sounds like she is playing with you though. I'm sorry to be the one to bring it to you, but I don't think you should be letting her play you like that. She wants in, she wants out, She wants in, she wants out... Does she know what she wants? Sex is also not a part of taking it slow. Taking it slow I think I can safely say, nearly implies starting over in the relationship. However, I have to wonder why she broke up after four years. Did she ever come to you and talk to you about any problems that she had with you or the relationship? Something was wrong there. I wish I knew how old you and your ex were so that I could figure this out. You sound pretty young, and if that is the case (and you never noticed any problems like fighting, jealousy, etc), then she probably is thinking about dating someone else for a while. She is probably scared of being with one person forever at this point in time. If so, no worries, she will realize what she had and learn to appreciate you later on. If you two are a little older, it probably means that you need to COMMUNICATE with her. Have a nice, long, calm talk and figure out how she really feels. Of course, it is very important for you to LISTEN to her and she needs to do the same for you, nothing will be accomplished otherwise. Talk to her and find out what is going on with her. Good luck to you!

Answer 3

First off, you need to learn this concept. It's called writing out complete words and then turning them into complete sentences. It makes a world of difference. You need to talk to her and figure out why she's been leaving and coming back so many times lately. Honestly it would probably be better for both of you to move on. If you have been together for 4 years, and you obviously don't sound that old, you need to interact with other people. Dump her and move on.

Answer 4

taking it slow means don't put any expectations or limitations on the relationship. IT IS NOT THE SAME RELATIONSHIP YOU AND HER WERE IN BEFORE!!! IT IS TOTALLY DIFFERENT!! you and her split for a reason and unless y'all know the reason, you're going to be single again. don't merry-go-round a relationship. either be together or apart. it saves allot of hurt. not saying anything for a week is weird. does she have another man she wants to break off with before "committing" back to you. communication is very important here or you two will be in allot of hurt.

Answer 5

it means that she doesnt want to commit to just you and she would like to keep her options open just incase someone else comes along she can just break it off with you. and while she is waiting for the other special someone, you are there to keep her mind busy so she wont feel lonely. i wouldnt let her set the rules in this thing, that is just going to get you played like a fool over and over and over......i think you get my point. but good luck though.

Answer 6

Girls do that becasue they are embarressed to tell anyone. She might like you and she might not. I dont know her side of the story but based on what you told me....But if she is willing to have sex with you..to me that is a huge commitment. For all I know she could be just dating you for sex and other things.

Answer 7

hmmmmmmm your not alone i am in same shoes just try and be patient and be there 4 her when she needs you and for now just take it one step at a time and dont rush things let her be in control of things 4 awhile and just see how it goes

Answer 8

go together ago i guess

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