2006-12-10 02:18:15 · 21 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
when hes here we have fun ! but had to watch him with another women he told me about. which didnt bother me until i saw him with her. then it hurt !! i know what kind of bloke he is, likes to think hes a bit of a womeniser, and yes a user. thats why hes not worth it, so why do i feel like my stomach is in knots ?
2006-12-11 10:49:08 · update #1
you've answered your own question!! if their not worth it then dont waste your time and energy on them, get yourself out of the house and find new people to mix with, you'll soon forget and you know they say what goes around comes around!!
2006-12-10 02:20:47 · answer #1 · answered by louise 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
God all these simpletons saying duh, if they are not worth it then whats the problem. They have obviously never been in this situation.
Sometimes the fact that someone is not worth it makes you more interested in them. You feel that perhaps you could help them be a better person, or hate the fact that they may be alone forever etc.
But all that aside, its not good for you. I believe that everyone needs to earn respect and trust. Even little old ladies, I'll be polite but I will not automatically respect my elders, until they earn it (which usually does happen). This person didn't earn respect and trust from you from what I gather, but you gave it anyway.
So this person who is 'not worth it' you need to concerntrate on why it is you feel that they are not worth your time, then move on. Because all the time you are spending on getting over this person is kind of wasted as like you said they are not worth it. Perhaps write a list of all their bad points and put it somewhere. Then get on with enjoying your life. When you start thinking oh ****, I've made a huge mistake, they are the love of my life, look at this list and you'll remember why you have to keep on doing your own thing.
I hope you have cut all ties with this person. At least for a month or so. Don't delete their phone number though, you need to prove to yourself that you are not phoning or contacting them, because you don't want to. Rather than not doing it because you don't have their number.
I hope this helps, but also bare in mind that us messed up humans can strangely and completely wrongly get a lot out of pining after something they don't even want. If this is the case give yourself a slap, and then get out more! (This helps trust me!)
2006-12-10 10:37:47 · answer #2 · answered by As You Like It 4 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I know that it is hard, but the best thing that you can do right now is to distance yourself. Do not talk to this person an any way; not on the phone, internet, and ESPECIALLY not in person... While you are not talking to the person, go and hang out with your friends. Go have a good time, get to know your friends a little better. Have fun with the friends that will last forever, rather than someone that probably will not last forever.
Just have a good time, and do not talk to the person right now, you cannot handle it right now if you are not over them...Believe me I just went through this...
2006-12-10 10:21:22 · answer #3 · answered by GirlInMassachusettTOWN 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It's very difficult situation when you're attracted to someone very much. At the same time, you realize that that person isn't for you..Try to avoid contact with that person, avoid phone calls..think about things that made you feel disappointed about that person..You'll over him/her by the time, that's how it goes normally especially when you meet another significant one.
2006-12-10 11:27:09 · answer #4 · answered by Psychologist 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The more you try to get over them, the less you will be able to & will end up thinking about them more. Trust me on this one! Give it time & try to stay out of their way. That is all you can do and soon the memory of them will fade.
2006-12-10 10:23:06 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh its the worst feeling in the world trying to get opver someone.
i was with my partner for 4 years and it broke my heart when i finished with him. The feeling, is just the worst. its like loosing someone to death.
to get over it, go out with your mates, have fun. meeting other people, go on dates to the cinema...
i felt like killing myself when we ended, i thought i would never get over it but the best healing is time.
you need, to take a few weeks out on your own, know yourself. and then with time, the special someone will find you.
2006-12-10 11:11:07 · answer #6 · answered by geminially 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Run as fast as your legs will carry you away from anyone who's not worth it.
Do something that makes you happy and give it time.
And remember that there are other people out there
2006-12-10 10:27:20 · answer #7 · answered by Finlay S 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Write down all their bad points and whenever you feel yourself missing them read back the list of negative points and you will remember why they are not worth it!
2006-12-10 10:22:00 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
make a list of all the negatives (if they're not worth it, there should be a lot). and keep reading that, and eventually you'll even wonder why you liked someone with so many flaws.
2006-12-10 10:21:37 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
write down everything nasty they have ever said or done to you and how it made you feel at the time.
everytime you want to cantact that person read the list.
its really does help!
also try to go to places you know they dont like so you dont have a huge chance of seeing them or bumping into them.
if they ring you dont answer
change you number or block theirs.
2006-12-10 10:22:01 · answer #10 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋