Can anyone help me please? Why am i ugly?

Question

I dont think i am that bad looking. I thought i was one of the pretier girls in my class.

i am very loud and i seem confident. but no one seems to be attracted to me. i am 16 and i havent ever had a boyfriend.

i always feel really depressed because everyone has boyfriends and i dont. boys in my class tend to call me ugly and annoying.

what can i do that will make me seem more attractive rather than annoying and ugly?

its really getting me down :(

Answer 1

awh babe just keep your mouth closed, wear makeup and be confidet

Answer 2

Hold on a second there!

Stop and think about this.

Firstly there is being attractive, how pretty someone is.

Then there is attractiveness, which means how attractive you are. Think about (in rather extreme terms), if ugly people could not find partners then they wouldn't be able to have kids and there would be no ugly people left...

And another thing, have you seen how many ugly people many models/actresses? Billy Joel and Christy Brinkley? Claudia Schiffer and David Copperfield? Heather Locklear and David Spade? Julia Roberts and Lyle Lovett? Argh stop!!!

Generally speaking it sounds like the guys (sorry boys) you hang around with need to grow up a little. If you haven't found the right person yet, don't worry they will be along at some point. Nobody has a sell by date, so don't rush anything you don't have to. The beauty of it is that you have the rest of your life, and that a very long time indeed.

Answer 3

Don't send your picture to anyone that asks!!! They are probably dirty old men.

I'm glad you've got your confidence, because that is the most attractive thing a person can have. (but don't love yourself too much, that is ugly)

Boys at school no nothing, they are simple. They go for the girls that are most likely to give them sex or whatever. Or they are too nervous to ask you out, so just watch you from a far and tell you that they don't like you, as to not give the game away.

I think you should keep being yourself, and you'll find the right guy eventually. The problem is many guys like to be the loud one, the centre of attention, so they might feel threatened by you.

There is nothing wrong with being loud, but having self discipline and judging when people think you are funny or not, is something you will need to learn. Remember jokes are only funny if other people laugh. Its the same with having a big personality, only let it out fully when you know that the people around you are worthy enough to see you on top form.

Answer 4

I used to be like you, thinking that I'm ugly and have the lowest self-esteem. However, I never talked with anyone and was voted the quietest female of the graduating class. I've received comments of me being as ugly from my family, mostly.

Different people have different preferences. Some really like girls to be more girly, some tend to like more natural girls. I think it's best for you to just stick to who you are and not change, just because you want a boyfriend. Boys are always there, but there's only a few great, non-jerky ones. The one who loves you for you and nothing else.

Being loud doesn't mean anything. Being annoying doesn't mean anything. The one that loves you would not care if you were. Some people like loud people and annoying people. Meaning they talk! and you could hear them talk!!!! That's a major plus. People ALWAYS make me speak louder and talk. I hate talking, mainly because I dont know what to talk about. Unless, it's on some topic of interest, like, killing people (I'm kidding).

I'm in college now. Had a few boyfriends. Guys are still jerky. But I've found the right one, who I feel the most comfortable with. Been together for almost two years now. He doesn't care what I think, or how I am, he supports in everything I do.

There's this saying, "People who care, dont matter. People who doesn't care, matter." Meaning, people who care how you act, how you talk judge you in many ways, dont matter.

Answer 5

Please know that beauty is the inside of a person. The outer appereance of an individual is not how a mature person sees your beauty. Hold your self with the confidence you spoke of keep your body clean and dress modestly. Smile regardly of what anyone is saying of you. You are very young I am 55 yrs old and through experience I know that inner beauty in where it matters . A real person worth having a relationship is caring for the individual that you are inside and the love you hold in your heart. Try to hold yourself together because as life goes on you will find that there are more people who will appreceate you and love you for being true within yourself. The right time will happen when it does the wait will be worth it all. Good luck and hang in there dont give up. keep on keeping on. Remember this when the going gets tough the tough get going. indianpaint

Answer 6

Wow, boys can really be jerks! I am sorry that you are going through this.

Remember this: Your perception of yourself is what makes you beautiful or ugly. Have you seen girls in your class that aren't very attractive at all, yet still get the guys?? It is all because of their confidence. When you have confidence, it shows. Practice this exercise. Wake up in the morning and look at your self in the mirror. Tell yourself "I am beautiful" until YOU believe it. Even a supermodel can look/feel ugly if she doesn't walk with confidence. Walk with your shoulders back and look people in the eye when you talk to them. Ignore the nonsense! Keep your head high. Pay attention to how neat you are. Take the time to be beautiful.

Answer 7

You may consider that its your attitude thats holding you back. while people can be shallow and formulate opinions based on looks, most peoples senses catch up to them if the person they are looking at has a bad attitude.

Its fine to think you are attractive, but dont let it go to your head. If you put yourself on a pedastel and act like you are better than other people no one will enjoy being around you.

Also, you are contradicting your own question. Are you one of the prettier girls in your class? or are you ugly? we cant tell on here. You can go to a beuty parlor and ask them. Is your hygene good? brushing teeth, washing clothes, and daily showers are must haves!

Either way, You cant just try to look pretty and expect some boy (or girl) to come ask you out. You gotta flirt and have conversations and you might even have to ask them out yourself.

Ask your friends for help! they are the best for personal advice. they actually know you.

Good luck.

Answer 8

Hi
You know what? Don't change. You are you, and that is a unique combination of your looks and personality.

Learn to love yourself, and value everything you have that is good - your friends, family, your talents and special attributes.

Hold on to the fact that you think you are good-looking. You are! Just be yourself, and rise above the people who can't see you for who you are.

Maybe they are threatened by your grades, or your confidence. Who knows?

You know this already, but you will attract a boyfriend (or girlfriend, whatever) when YOU are ready. For now, enjoy the freedom of being you.

Right now, go upstairs, look in the mirror and tell yourself 'I am loved. I am attractive. I am happy'. Really believe it, feel like you do when you are at your happiest. Get that sensation down, and remember it each time you feel sad.

I guarantee you will feel better.

Love and light x

Answer 9

I felt like you in school. The key is to build up your confidence, you probably are a pretty attractive girl and most boy's may fancy you but you may be giving off wrong signals or maybe too loud. Just try and be yourself. The boy's in your class seem to be very immature if they're calling you names, so i'd stay away from them! You're worth more and don't rush into anything finding someone special takes time.

Answer 10

It's probably more that your loudness and confidence is coming off as annoying, and that gets on people's nerves. The ugly thing may just be tacked on. Maybe you should make an effort to become more subdued, quiet, humble, whatever. Tone down whatever is getting you insulted.

On the other hand, you could just say **** em, and just wait until college. Boys your age are immature pricks anyway. You'll find someone who loves you for you. Just keep an open mind about the boys who come your way.

Answer 11

I was just like you when I was at school and I decided to enjoy school for what was is - a learning curve. Its funny as I had a horrible nickname (Saddlebottom) for what has turned out to be one of my best assets! Try not to take it to heart and remember that this is only one section of your life that could for all the wrong reasons ruin bigger and more important sections if you let it. I never had a boyfriend at school or college or uni but my first fella was 8 years old than me and we had 7 great years together. Sometimes we are just ahead of your time, and your look can be the same as well and this will be why they call us names -different is scary and sometimes boys find different intimidating and boys being boys can only deal with it in one way - be nasty to make them feel better. I now get told that I am a cross between Beyonce and Jo-Lo and most of my love interests are men that are older than me. As much as I would have liked to have a boyf in school (I liked a guy in my class for the entire period & years later I bumped into him & he complimented my round bum and height and we went out on a few dates!) it wasn't meant to be; but I was popular, had friends that where mainly boys and as much as I found it hard at the time I now know that if wishes came true I would wish to re-live a good week in school as I enjoyed it that much. Its all just growing up babes so try to enjoy it and remeber that you are all going through insecurities as well. What makes us strong is how we handle them. Before you know it will be all over and you will be beating the chaps off with a big stick :))