How do you find out if somebody loves you?

Question

I love my girlfriend, and we've been together for 5 months. I told her I was in love with her a couple of months ago, and I totally am, but she's not the "type" who will tell me that she's in love with me...

My point is, I want to know how she feels. I know she does like me, but she's not a very "talk-about-your-feelings" kinda gal. So, my question is - how do I find out how she feels?

I openly tell her how much she means to me, but she's the kind of girl who will just say "you too" (for example, "you mean so much to me" and then, "you too") instead of telling me something herself like "thanks for being my boyfriend". I dunno how long I am supposed to go without her telling me that she loves me...

...it's been 5 months. We get along great, and she would break-up with me if she didn't like me, I know that. It's just, I feel like it'd be nice to hear her say it. And if she doesn't feel "it", wouldn't she of broken up by now?

Answer 1

LISTEN TO THESE SONGS...
~I can't make u love me, if u don't by
BONNIE RAIT
~any song by CHRIS ISAAK
~Creep by RADIOHEAD

u r being a fool! She's not leaving u because it's like abandoning a bird w/ a broken wing..she's not heartless!! but she's just not that into you!!
So, if u like being around her that's fine..but don't throw your love away..save it for someone who appreciates u!!

P.S. u sound like a wimp! toughen up! this is advice i'd give to girlz!!! geez

Answer 2

One, in all reality 5 months is not that long of a relationship. One thing you might do is try asking her straight out if she loves you or not. I don't know why people are so scared of asking questions. Another thing is to wait and let her tell you when she is ready. Do not try to force it out of her, in many cases that just drives them away. Be patient, that is one of the laws of love.You know you ask "And if she doesn't feel "it", wouldn't she of broken up by now?" The answer is no. A reminder that 5 months is not a long time. She may not feel the same as you. Just give her more time with no pressure. Love her, if that's the way you feel. But don't let that make you feel like you have the right that you should be loved in return, especially so fast in the relationship.