How can a grown up child, Woman give back , shows, proper Love, caring to own Mother, after reject, and abondon own child eversince the child was born? The child's mother has another two grown up with anoter Father. How can Orpan child forgive the Woman?
2006-12-10 02:02:28 · 9 answers · asked by Liz 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Forgiving is hard. Very hard. But its the only way to heal. You can hate her throughout your life...but is that going to do any good? No, it isn't. So better forgive her. People do things that they shouldn't and they might not even regret it. So why bother? You are a living individual and blessed because you're alive. Just think of how many dying people around the world would love to have that gift of yours? So, smile! Move on. What's done is done. Give your mother the gift of forgiveness this Christmas. As far as "Orphan" goes, you aren't one. Look up to the heavens and you'll see God's always with you. You're God's very own kid after all!
And get busy with your work. And make friends that you can trust. I'm sure that they can be more to you than any family. Okay? Take care.
2006-12-10 02:13:07 · answer #1 · answered by Maverick 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Forgiveness is about the person practicing it. If somebody chooses not to forgive and to be angry and hurt the rest of their life - they will feel anger and hurt in their heart. If they decide to forgive and be loving - they will feel love in their heart. It's their choice.
The mother who gave away the child was probably not able to care for it at the time - and gave it away so it could have the best life possible. Maybe since then things changed - and she got her life together and had two more children.
You call the child an orphan - so I am guessing that it was not adopted. If the child was adopted - and has adopted parents - THOSE are her/his parents. The birth mother is just that - the birth mother. But there is no reason that they cannot meet - and the "orphan" forgive the birth mother and get to know her.
Hope this helps.
2006-12-10 02:10:18 · answer #2 · answered by liddabet 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Ask yourself, if you've had a good life. If so, be glad that she gave you up to people who loved and cared for you like a child should be loved and cared for. Forgiveness takes a strong person, and if you aren't ready for that yet..don't try to force youself. You will come into this forgiveness when you are ready. In the mean time, focus your energy on your REAL parents (the ones who cared for you).
Also, remember that you may never love your birth mother the way she may want you to. Just accept it and realize that none of this is your fault. You are reacting accordingly.
2006-12-10 02:10:24 · answer #3 · answered by Talkstress 6 · 1⤊ 0⤋
It may be easier to forgive your mother when you yourself have children of your own.
It can be difficult and scary for a young woman to have a baby alone; she might have wanted you to have a better life, or she may have felt she would have been a terrible mother at the time. Maybe she was starving...or addicted to drugs...or an alcoholic...or homeless.
Why not talk to her and find out the story? Most mothers who give up their children for adoption feel terrible guilt about it; many regret it, and most had good reasons for it.
2006-12-10 02:17:21 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
If it is within your own heart to forgive then it will come.
Maybe you might want to ask why . If you are interested and the Mother is wanting to be truthful as to why.
I really can't answer fully as I am not in the position to do so.
I hope that you can find a peaceful resolve through all this I feel for you.
Sunshine
2006-12-10 02:15:10 · answer #5 · answered by Spirit_Rain_3-SunShineAries 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe the woman is mature enough to say that she respects the life of this baby and she wants a better life for this child. A life that she can not give to this child right now!
2006-12-10 02:08:15 · answer #6 · answered by Lovely*~*Layla 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
There is no answer to the question but with God´s help.
And, as you know, it is absolutely essential to build
and lead your life .
But don´t forget , children within families who have not
been rejected directly but indirectly are not better off.
2006-12-10 02:10:05 · answer #7 · answered by rgarlik 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
If you have a resentment against someone and want to get over it - pray for that person every night for two weeks. Pray for their happiness; that love, joy, peace and harmony, financial security and good health will surround them. Even if you don't mean it. You're resentment will dissapate and you can move on. Guaranteed! (Father Martin)
2006-12-10 02:09:31 · answer #8 · answered by RubyD 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
because he is grown up. and realizes he was better off being adopted out .was for his own good
2006-12-10 02:08:24 · answer #9 · answered by robert c 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋