i am a girl from a traditional indian family. I didn't marry b'cause i m afraid to adjust my whole life with a stranger just to have sex, a child or a so called family.
Though I am fond of companions, my choice is not very common & in a sense extremist too. I love a person either 2 much or else i shirk away.
Now, physically, mentally i need sex, i need love, but can't find any wayout. Please help.
2006-12-10 01:54:01 · 18 answers · asked by rani 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
don't do it then...........wait till you're sure you're ready!
2006-12-10 01:56:28 · answer #1 · answered by Babyface 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Having sex doesn't compromise your independence. Just find a boyfriend who isn't interested in marriage, or even get a friend with benefits (a close friend with whom you have sex sometimes). Your family doesn't have to know. But you're right when you say that a child and a family will affect your independence. You don't have to have any of those things, either.
2006-12-10 12:25:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Will you have sex with me??? may be the answer is not. Independent from mind, body ans soul, sex is either a possesd thought or just lust. Per your background, it doesnt seem either. You need to love someone to be able to ENJOY sex and not just have it otherwise you would answer yes to my first line. If you answered NO, you are still sensible. Go take a peek inside conciousness. Its not a Lecture! Think about it.
2006-12-10 09:59:24 · answer #3 · answered by Rahul S 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well do you have a boyfriend if so wait till the time is ready and only you know when your ready but if you dont have a boyfriend don't just go looking for one maybe you should wait until marrige and know that when you have sex he will be there tomorrow instead of having a boyfriend he will just leave you the naxt day because all they want is sex and if u wait till marrige you will know that he will be there because he loves you
2006-12-10 10:01:53 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
You don't have to start a family or get married to have sex, necessarily. Use a condom/birth control, have sex with your next boyfriend and if/when you break up, it will be almost like it never happened and you both move on with your lives.
2006-12-10 10:05:17 · answer #5 · answered by ☆Tąrą☆ 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i think you are having a tough time distinguishing between the physical side of sex, and the emotional side of love.
we all want and crave love.. and sex is an imporant part of love..
try pleasuring yourself in order to satisfy the physical needs.. you don't have to be with a partner to get your physical satisfation.
as far as the emotional side, try dating.. get to know a guy and develop a close friendship, and hopefully it will lead to love.. don't have sex with him until you know the love is real and is serious.
2006-12-10 10:44:09 · answer #6 · answered by Jeff 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
As it is completely against you tradition,and you say you do not want to compromise your Independence,please do not use sex as a bargaining chip,you could live to regret it very much
2006-12-10 10:07:19 · answer #7 · answered by barnowl 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Making love is something ... like a combination of heart,mind, soul and body....and to for the first time... do it with someone close to u who can understand u and ur feeling... like a close friend or somthing....
If u think u love a person... why dont u tel wat is in u r mind and express ur feeling and see how he takes it and if he is also sharing the same interest... U GOAHED and take necessary precautions .......... and enjoy it..........
All the best
2006-12-10 09:59:30 · answer #8 · answered by sueann_love 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well---being I am married and old==I will tell you to get a married guy that is gentle and just come out and tell him you want sex but no relationship---I should be so lucky to get a girl like yu to have sex with just for the having of it
good luck just contact me and we can fulfill your want
2006-12-10 10:55:50 · answer #9 · answered by willtdn 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you can have a relationship without attactments. you can just date for sex and companionship, you just need to use protection all the time and pull out before he nuts in you. trust me I was the same way, I just lost my virginity last night.
2006-12-10 09:57:44 · answer #10 · answered by eclipsefreak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You need to satisfy your sexual needs, so, I would suggest finding a friend you can have sex with and still remain friends.
2006-12-10 09:58:29 · answer #11 · answered by S K 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋