why do we think that people we are attracted to then owe us something?
Have you ever behaved this way? what was the impact on you and the other person of that kind of thinking?
what is the cure for this habit people have?
2006-12-10 01:49:11 · 13 answers · asked by ? 3 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
for crying out loud bloody loud...can i get even one authentic answer from a human being willing to tell the naked truth! so much idealistic self rightious nonsense ...not a teeny weeny shred of humanity in any one of these answers! you guys must all be "Nickleback" fans!!!
2006-12-10 02:03:33 · update #1
Owe? Maybe the wrong word.
I think we give unconditionally to those people we love. Do we expect anything in return? Well that's the curious part. See what happens is that we probably fell in love with this person in the first place because they gave to us without question. We become accustomed to the give and take between us both. If and when it stops, we feel empty or lost without it. We then feel that IF we are giving....... they should continue giving. And then yes.... THEN we almost feel that we are "owed" (still not sure that is the word) or expected to be given something in return.
Again... I feel we only get this way because of habit. So what do we do to cure this habit? We really can't so much. I mean we can theorize that love should "mix it up" and give in doses and give at times that are least expected. But regardless...... love is given. And without a doubt... love then becomes...... expected. I think this is just something that comes with the nature of feelings. *sigh*
2006-12-10 06:45:12 · answer #1 · answered by Marianne not Ginger™ 7 · 2⤊ 1⤋
I hate saying this but "nobody owes us anything"
The more people realise this, the better thir lives will be. This is becauses you'll never feel disapppointed or let down by anybodys actions. After all, we came into this world seperately and we will leave seperately.
Bt its always a blessing to have faithful and loyal friends and loved ones. Bt remember... this is a privilege... NOT a right.
Good luck
2006-12-10 01:55:08 · answer #2 · answered by venom! 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is not that they owe us something, but there is time and love invested in relationships and with that type of deep investment, we expect love and respect in return.
When at times it is not given and/or not shown, we feel hurt as you do now. The way out of this is communication and forgiveness which both are not easy when you are upset but can happen in time.
Best of luck
2006-12-10 01:58:50 · answer #3 · answered by Sunflower 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I OWE NOBODY BUT MYSELF ANYTHING!!! If someone is going to love me just to get something out of me, other than love in return, I don't need them, and neither do you. They say you can't buy love, but so many try to. If someone says they love you (and you think it may be because of the money you spend on them), it's not love. Stop spending, and see how long they stay around.
2006-12-10 01:56:56 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
No one owe's anyone anything if yall are attracted to each other yall should just be together unless someone ask for something then if you say yes to the question then you owe them something. did that make since
2006-12-10 01:54:49 · answer #5 · answered by eclipsefreak 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
there is unconditional love. Then there is what some human beings call love, it relatively is in straightforward terms a feeling of possessing a individual. IF all and sundry places circumstances on their "loving" you, get out of that courting, quickly! those style in straightforward terms bypass away to annoy. confident, BD is an remarkable poet/philospopher.
2016-10-14 09:41:51 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
They owe you Love, Respect, Understanding, Honesty & Forgiveness. And you owe them the same thing.
2006-12-10 01:58:58 · answer #7 · answered by autumn 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well, it's natural for love to be reciporcated, but no... they don't owe you anything. And if we expect love in return for love, it's more of a need for mirroring that feeling... so I think it's more like we expect, and hope and wish... rather than we demand...
The cure? I don't think there is one. You would have to deny your natrural tendencies, and that's hard.
2006-12-10 01:58:05 · answer #8 · answered by Pivoine 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I owe nothing to no one. if you go in a realtionship then you have expectations. honesty and respect but that is all. what else can you owe someone for dating you?
2006-12-10 01:53:55 · answer #9 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I don't think that way... i always feel i owe them something. not sure what the cure would be...
2006-12-10 01:52:51 · answer #10 · answered by Afiniwish 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋