Ok this is insane. I know I did some things to loose my parents trust. And I admitt I needed to do the time for it, but now for years I've tried building it back up. Now when they are gone, they think I play in things. Last night I made some reesee cups and put them in the fridge for them to eat, but my mom yelled at me when the rest of the family got home. She said I was playing in stuff, and started yellign at me to clean. I ended up throwing my cups away before she found them. It makes me feel unwanted. She makes me feel like crap. I really want a lock on my door so I can change and what ever, but she dosn't trust me on this computer. Shes a idiot I tell you. I can't do anything! I wanna run away or commit suicide! She's trapping me and won't stop! I've tried nicely talkign to her, but my dad or her won't listen to me! I hate my life, no one cares!
2006-12-10 01:47:00 · 7 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
Seek professional help. Then they HAVE to listen to you.
2006-12-10 01:50:06 · answer #1 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
regwoman said it nicely. Ask your parents before doing things. My 17 year old can tell you how he feels the same way. My 18 out of the house with a kid can tell you how i feel to a point. Working 50+ hours and coming home to dirty dishes that anyone but me left since I am the one working. Or even worse one some have not made an effort to half way riense to make easier to wash. I have to make sure other things in the house are getting done (trash, animals feed). Then you are going to sneak my beer out of the fridge? I only drink about a 12 pack a week. Are you doing good in school? The key here is to make yourself useful and contribute the running of the house. If you are just a added chore then this is why you may get fussed at. If you clean up and do more than your share they will be more happy that you are around. And stay away from others stuff. When things get irratating take a break for a few then it will be ok. A boss will a lot of the time not be as nice as your parents and the paycheck don't help that. When you get out of the house things will be nicier for you but you need to plan for it. My 17 year old says he is moving out at 18 but has no job or car? Ask where and he gets mad. Sorry just some thoughts.
2006-12-10 02:20:53 · answer #2 · answered by ronnny 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I know how you feel. My mother was the same way when I was younger. It's emotional abuse. My mother also beat me and verbally abused me as well. I thought about suicide back then too and I sure am glad I didn't. Think about it, you can move out when you're 18. I did when I was 17. I've had a great life since then and you can too. You should seek help through a counselor at school. They will help you to get through this confidentially. REMEMBER...You have a long, wonderful life ahead of you, one that you will be in control of and you will have fun, you will find love, you will experience all the wonderful things life has to offer. Don't give up honey!!!
2006-12-10 01:54:56 · answer #3 · answered by ♥Xty♥ 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Hello and how are you today?What you are saying is that you want your parents to trust you huh?Thats good.Have you fixed those things that you did wrong to make your parents not trust you?It is very important to a parent to see that whatever you did wrong was fixed by you,And not just forgotten like most people want.You must understand,us parents look for the small things that can go wrong,not the big things.We cant control the big things that happen,but in looking for the small things that add up to a big thing is what we look for.The thought that you had in making
them something to snack on was cool.Did you clean up your mess that you made?And the computer,it is a tool and not a means of a social life for a social life.Try really talking to them.And not on just your level.Try and see their point and really hear what they are saying.They probibly been there done that and will understand if you really talk to them.
2006-12-10 02:11:07 · answer #4 · answered by hangmanknot 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
O.K. Calm yourself. It's not that bad. Somehow I grew up and moved away- and I'm still here. First- so you made a treat. Did you clean up the kitchen when you were finished? Was she saving those ingredients to do something with them? Were you supposed to b doing your homework instead? Are you old enough to use the oven? What do you mean by "stuff"? Your not doing "weed" are you? That's not advisable or smart. Can you calmly talk to your mother, and approach the situation calmly, asking the questions I asked you? Plus- the tougher you are and can deal with your parents--the better you can deal with people when you get a job. If you think your parents are nuts now just wait til you get a boss!
2006-12-10 01:56:40 · answer #5 · answered by regwoman123 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Suicide never helps. Running away merely means you don't have the courage to face the problem.
Broken trust is the hardest thing to repair. And frankly, unless you remain consistent for many years, the trust will never be truly repaired.
Patience. Honesty. And a lot of swallowed pride.
She is trapping you cause she knows you've done wrong before. And unless you LEARN to trust THEM, you will never win their trust back.
2006-12-10 01:51:44 · answer #6 · answered by tobito_abad 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
go get professionaly help so they can solve not only your problem but ur parents problem too.
2006-12-10 01:56:04 · answer #7 · answered by irishmen1222 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋