Mom mom always puts me down in front of people, Any ideas why?

Question

Of course I asked her about it and she is like "what are you talking about" and "thats crazy". Almost as if she doesnt even know she is doing it. But everytime we have friends and family over she talks to me as if Im slow and she makes a fool of me. Also Im a college student majoring in biology and she is not supportive with my decision. And whenever people ask me "do you think you can make it, its kind of a hard field and its long?", she interjects and says "well, I dont think so, thats her life.."! But the funny thing is that when everyone is gone, she is completely cool, calm, and collective. Why is she taunting me and constantly putting me down in front of others? Does this happen to anyone else? Any ideas on how to deal? I'm starting to feel like she really does not like me out of all her children.

Actually, she has ALWAYS done this and the older I get the worse it is. I have 3 siblings and I dont see it done to them as much as me. I dont know, I've always been a good child, well behaved, and good grades.

Answer 1

It sounds as if your mom is really jealous of you and your accomplishments . Did she have to sacrifice something like a career or lifestyle when she had you? Holding a grudge against your child is wrong because you did not ask to be here. One of the reasons that I think she puts you down in front of others is because she thinks that she is powerful, but in all actuality she knows that you have the power and she will do anything to tarnish your image.

My mom sounds similar to your mom. My mom had to give up her career in the Navy when she had me and she has blamed me ever since. She never gives me any type of praise and I am 33 years old. I bought my first home at age 22 and I have a very successful career in the finance industry. Do you think that she has ever once said I am proud of you? NO! My mom did not even attend my college graduation. She did not see my son until he was 2 years old. And when I confront her about all of this she gets amnesia and tells me that I am creating things in my head just to fight with her.

Unfourtunately, I barely speak to my mother anymore because I learned that her negativity towards me was causing me to have low self-esteem. It took me years to figure out that I was not the problem. You need to surround yourself with positive people who truly believe in you and love you. Your mother may never come around and I know that probably hurts you because you want her acceptance. You sound like a person that is truly on the right path. Please do not let anyone knock you off. When you become that successful biologist or doctor then what are they going to say? Nothing :)

I really hope this helps you.

Answer 2

Has she always done this. Could it be she is missing or up set with you cause you are doing something that she does not like? Hard to tell if not there then it is still hard to know why? May be better to ask someone like one of your siblings.

Answer 3

Maybe your mother is jealous of you. Somehow when others are around she feels threatened by your presence. I think the more she insults you, the easier it is to see how weak of a person she is. If my mom treated me like that, we wouldn't see each other very much.

Answer 4

do you live at home? you need to put some distance between the two of you and you should confront her and if she just brushes you aside then tell her until she changes you will not be back. she does it because you have allowed it to for so long. you need to end it now before you start believing her..

Answer 5

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Answer 6

She's trying to feel superior.