I was in love with this girl whom I thought was the love of my life.. but she put me through a lot of trauma and depression..most of it, I know, I brought it upon myself, but she definitely caused pain intentionally and subjected me to emotional abuse, possibly to make me stop liking her(or that's what I thought at that time)..I was angry with her but I controlled it and never said anything.. Now I think I have forgiven her.. but the thought that I never confronted and was taken for granted bothers me and I am afraid that it might affect my existing and future relationship with women-women as friends, as well as romantic relationships with women.. How do I move forward and do so without having any "unresolved issues"?
2006-12-10 01:39:32 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Health ➔ Mental Health
it's not easy but learn to see people as individuals, not all women are or act the same way. Look at your own behavior and learn from it. Seems like you're making progress since you are admitting that you let her do this to you. Mates will inflict as much emotional pain as WE allow them to do. Don't try to change what other do to you, but what you allow to have done to you.
2006-12-10 02:15:18 · answer #1 · answered by latina44572002 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
In Life you see we will always have unsolved issues. Best to say, "well that taught me a lesson" rather than, "that defeated me" . All you need to do is to meet another woman to take away the hurt from the last. (I know you just said that will never happen) For a las' "love hurts, it always has, but the wonderful memories are to be cherished, not the bad. Then, go on with your life, take up tennis, beat the hell out of that ball, not women. OK?
2006-12-10 09:51:51 · answer #2 · answered by Conrey 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Dude, believe it, I can relate.I know how you feel. It's no walk in the park, to feel unwanted, and unloved. But how I got over it is that I faced my fear and did what I never would have thought of doing. I asked her out. You can only imagine how much it hurt when she said no. Although it still hurts a bit (this was 2 weeks ago), It doesn't hurt as much as it used to. It's because I'm proud of myself. After 5 years of keeping it to myself, keeping it a secret. And it's normal to feel like she's avoiding you. Your mind is tricking you into thinking things that aren't really true. Dude, just ask her out. Even if she says no, you'll be proud of yourself for overcoming your greatest fear.
2006-12-10 10:33:34 · answer #3 · answered by Ricky 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Play Videogames
2006-12-10 09:47:05 · answer #4 · answered by xenomorphic 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Easy:
To move forward ask a different girl out for a date NOW.
2006-12-10 09:43:57 · answer #5 · answered by SweetBrunette 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Get yourself another girlfriend and soon you'll forget the pain caused by your ex.
2006-12-10 09:42:56 · answer #6 · answered by markos m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋