Any suggestions please?

Question

My 6 year old son is keep hiting me and his dad and throwing a tantrum when we are grounding him or sending him in his room. What can we do to stop this?

Answer 1

We're having the same situation with our 5-yr-old and I've been told the best thing is to use as little emotion as possible and remain consistent with the consequences. Kids are searching for boundaries at this time, so they will push your buttons to see where that line is. If it always changes, they will get confused and the behavior will become worse as they search for their limit. Good luck!

Answer 2

Most of the time people dont understand that talkin to the child and finding out the problem is the best. When you send him to his room wait till he gets over his tantrum then sit with him for a couple of minutes ask questions on Why?? do u act like this and doesnt your throat hurt from all the crying and screaming??? lol...scoop down to his level..eventually he will break in and tell you why does he act like that and if that doesnt work well Christmas is around the corner and Quess who will be on the naughty list this year Remember you and your husband are the adults here not him

Answer 3

For the sake of all concerned get some professional advise.It's a small problem now but when he gets to be a teenager it will be a huge problem.
Seriously.Do some research.Find out what to do.
Here in the San Francisco Bay area there's a trial about to start involving a teen who recently beat his mother to death.
Seriously,get some help.

Answer 4

FIRST THING TO ASK IS YOUR RELATIONSHIP WITH THE FATHER OF YOUR CHILD AND HOW YOU AS A COUPLE BEHAVE IN FRONT OF HIM. SECOND IF THE CHILD IS PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY IN A STABLE AND NORMAL STATE. ANY STRESSORS OR POSSIBILITY OF ABUSE FROM ANY BODY WHO COMES IN CONTACT WITH THE CHILD. IF THERE IS NOTHING WRONG IN THE ABOVE MENTIONED AND CHILD IS BEING LOOKED AFTER WELL BOTH PHYSICALLY AND EMOTIONALLY AND THESE ARE JUST TEMPER TANTRUMS THEN YOU SHOULD GROUND HIM CONSISTENTLY WITHOUT SHOWING ANY MOTHERLY EMOTIONS. BUT I HAVE A GUT FEELING LIKE IT IS MORE THAN TEMPER TANTRUMS, IF HE CONTINUES TO SHOW THIS BEHAVIOUR FOR ANOTHER 2 MONTHS, THEN YOU MUST SPEAK TO YOUR DOCTOR OR A CHILD PSYCHOLOGIST TO MAKE SURE WE ARE NOT MISSING SOMETHING HERE.

Answer 5

he's 6, so he is big enough to understand you when you speak to him. are you explaining to him WHY he is being punished??

also, at 6 he can understand that hitting is wrong. i would say that hitting him back wouldn't make it right, but sometimes you have to nip these things in the bud before they get out of hand.
if my 6 year old was hitting us, then i'm pretty sure i'd start spanking. not out of control, but a swat or two on the bottom cna get your point across. then explain why you did that and send him to his room to think about what he did and why he shouldn't hit people.

take care.

Answer 6

I know this isn't what parents want to do but you have to whoop him. NOT beat him but whoop him. He believs that he can run over you and get his way by throwing tantrums....thats what my brothers 4 year old do. So my brother beats his little butt. Show him that you love him but show him discipline....it will help you and him

Answer 7

the best thing you can do is ignore his tantrums and act like his criing doent matter to you continue the punnishing. hope this helps.

Answer 8

A spanking is in order and sending akid to his room isn't punishment. It the same as saying I am upset with you and I will reward you by letting you go play with your toys in your room.

Answer 9

tell him if he hits or throws tantrum, then the punishment time doubles each time he does it.

Answer 10

Maybe you arent leaving him in his room long enough, and when he is in there are you going back to console him. Try and remember you are punishing him.