i see the person i want to be, but im still stuck in my shell wallowing in self pity! how do i break the chain, and go take what i want?
2006-12-10 00:50:13 · 6 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Only person stopping you is YOU. It sounds like you just need to work on your will power and self esteem and when thats going, the rest will fall into place.
Saying NO to something gets easier everytime after the first time.
2006-12-10 00:53:49 · answer #1 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
The only person who controls what you say and do is you.
"but im still stuck in my shell wallowing in self pity!" -- stop doing that,
"go take what i want" -- and do that.
2006-12-10 08:54:27 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
To be the person you want to be, it may be necessary to take many small steps to achieve this. It always helps if there is someone close to you, perhaps a friend or relative that you admire. Look at this person carefully and notice what it is that makes them successful.
Is it their confidence with dating? or their career? or their appearance? Try to look for clues or ideas that you can copy and apply to your life.
For me, education and knowledge instills confidence. People are always attracted to other people who have knowledge and are interesting to talk to. Perhaps you should look into trying a new hobbie. What are you interested in? You could also try to reach out to others such as doing volunteer work. Helping others who are in need or are worse off than yourself can seriously make you realize that your life isn't quite as bad as you may think.
I also read alot of motivational self-help books which are widely available at any library.
Most of all, you have to want to make the change for yourself badly, and be willing to do something to get things rolling. Believe me this can be done.
Take one step today to improve your thinking!
Good luck!
2006-12-10 09:07:37 · answer #3 · answered by Smilinggirl 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you are doing something already...you think about it...keep doing that...dare to be the one you want. if possible ask some counseling help, if not try some books. good luck.
2006-12-10 09:01:33 · answer #4 · answered by meninne3 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well you need to be like most people.... i used to be like you but i thought to myself if i dont love who i am no-one else will and that gave me will p;ower.. i changed my image and gave myself some more respect ...i dont care wot other people think of me if they hate me it is cause they are jealous xxx =) good luck ...break out of it talk to people that are like you and maybe break out together in groups xx
2006-12-10 08:54:20 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
BELEIVE...
2006-12-10 08:53:06 · answer #6 · answered by Slim 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋