we dated for 1.5 yrs.he was sort of a jerk at first,but he changed for me.he did anything i wanted.then he mentioned marriage but i wasn't ready.i broke up with him for 5 months but only bc i had to go away.we got back together afterwards.our parents/friends didn't like it.i broke up with him again and this time he moved on. he still called me and one time lied to me by saying he was going to dump her and coerced me into sex (he cheated on her).i was angry but glad that he cheated (i know this makes me mean but it's human nature).his girlfriend never found out but dumped him the next day for other reasons (he was selfish and tried to change her). a week later he and i are still hanging out/having sex,but we both started dating new people.he really likes this new girl he's dating but i can't move on.last night i partied with friends and drunk-txted him saying life is fuucked up bc i still loved him even though i shouldn't.no answer.i found out that new girl was there last night. HELP!!!
2006-12-10 00:45:24 · 15 answers · asked by stelze 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Are you an andriod??... Who says 1.5 years?
2006-12-10 00:54:08 · answer #1 · answered by Blaque Inque 3 · 0⤊ 2⤋
Difficult letting go. You're not the first person in this situation. What I would say is that you are acting rather selfishly, both of you. You are in a circle of actions that can only hurt yourselves and others who come into contact with you.
How it seems to me is that you are both using each other when there is nothing better around; this isn't fair on either of you. It's certainly not fair on any third party.
Drunk texting is a problem with many people; it's difficult because while if you say something when intoxicated you can retract it, there's hard evidence if you txt.
You need to break out of this before it becomes obsessional. Seriously. You are only leading yourself into a web of pain. It seems to me if you pursue this guy, or let him know you are pursuing him, then you will continue to feel huty and rejected and you deserve better.
2006-12-10 00:57:14 · answer #2 · answered by Wonderpants 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Do you really want to continue having a relationship with a cheater? How can you trust a man who has betrayed you?There will always be suspicion which can lead to big fights. Let him go. There are a lot of fishes in the ocean. Go fish
2006-12-10 00:55:41 · answer #3 · answered by allanbabes 3 · 1⤊ 1⤋
You need to just move on, time has a way of healing all. It may suck at first, but as time passes it gets better. The easiest way to achieve this is to stay away. Being around him will only make the healing process harder and drag on longer.
2006-12-10 00:49:46 · answer #4 · answered by ? 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
I was in the same dilemma as you 3 years ago. And we are together now. I let him go , told him to go be happy and that shed never be me. I would cry every nite ( i was pregnant with his baby) And soon enough he came to his senses and came home.hes just seeing what else is out there .let him see ,and when he sees the others are not you hell come back if he really loves you.
2006-12-10 00:53:25 · answer #5 · answered by little_gizmo2004 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
you know, I had a boyfriend like him previously. in straightforward terms i did no longer wait around 4 years previously I ditched him. female, from what I study, you 2 are in basic terms too youthful. in all probability you will possibly desire to end it with him and bypass out with somebody else for a transformation. The warning symptoms are in each single place and in case you fail to %. up on that, you will stay harm whilst he zips out and in of your life as without problems because of fact the wind. he gets loads of breaks with different females and particular will locate one he needs to maintain while you waste your toddlers waiting for him to return around. female, you're nevertheless youthful. sometime, if he replaced into truly meant for you, you will finally end up mutually. yet precise now, you're throwing opportunities to the wind. First loves are consistently the toughest to allow bypass because of fact that's the 1st time all of us know that mind-blowing feeling. regrettably, maximum first loves in no way lasts because of fact human beings outgrew them. And if that's as taking income as this, you need to do nicely to take a wreck from love for a whilst, while you build capability to locate the subsequent one..
2016-10-14 09:39:17 · answer #6 · answered by ? 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
This may not be about him, but moreso about you and how you set yourself up to be in a relationship. You may want to talk to a professional to help you find out why you are searching for something that may be destructive. It's not about changing youself, but knowing yourself. You are worth it. Good luck.
2006-12-10 00:50:33 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Unfortunately, love has to be a mutual thing. Your situation reminds me of that song "Upsidedown" by umm... I forget that lady's name.
Anyway, you're in love with a cheater. He's not going to be tied down to anyone. He makes false committments to satisfy his urges. Take what you can from him and be satisfied with what you get.
It takes 2 to tango and he's not dancing.
2006-12-10 00:50:42 · answer #8 · answered by Cameron L 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋
Its easy for me to say give up but I'm sure its not easy for you.
It seems that he still wants you back.
But men are weird creatures.
He's a bit angry with you because you refused his offer for marriage.
That's why he moved on...
You had broken his heart.
Try to talk it over with him.
tell him it does not have to be that way.
I hope all goes well
2006-12-10 00:54:23 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Stop trying to change people and find someone that is right for you.
2006-12-10 00:54:03 · answer #10 · answered by RayCATNG 4 · 0⤊ 1⤋