i met this guy recently at a party and hes rly cute n nice n everything but i dnt wanna go out with anyone coz i no i'll get heart broken at the end. I'm so scared i'll start like him that jst the thought of it makes me cry. I rly dnt wanna go out wit anyone anymore. how can i dump him slowly n gently without hurting him?
2006-12-10 00:34:10 · 22 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Talking with him isn't going to solve anything for now if you "KNOW" that your story's going to be a tragedy. However, do you really know? Maybe the guy wants to settle down and go steady. Don't be afraid of getting into a relationship. I know that it's scary. But learn to trust. Start of slowly. Take it one day at a time. You don't have to do anything that you don't want to. But why deny the love of somebody who trul cares for you? So I'd like you to see if the guy's genuine or not and if he is, then give him a chance. Of course, to do that or not, is entirely in your hands...but hey, I'd like to see you happy.
2006-12-10 00:43:57 · answer #1 · answered by Maverick 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I think ur more scared of urself..if ur past experiences make u feel this way, let me tell u something. All relationships dont end the same way. And...ur relationships are what u make. If they go awry, ur probably the reason for it. (i'm sorry if i sound rude). Try and ascertain ur own faults and make sincere amends. Life will become more beautiful. And, if i was wrong in assuming that u've had bitter relationships before, i guess the best way to dump a guy is become very expensive:-))
2006-12-10 00:39:52 · answer #2 · answered by Anne 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Holy Jehoshaphat! You just met this guy and you're not dating but you want to know how to let him down easy?
You probably will feel heartache someday, but you're inflicting it on yourself before you've even gotten to have the pleasure of the relationship!
I takes a bit of maturity and caution to enter into a relationship and hold yourself back. I say, never love someone with all your heart. Love them with most of it, but keep a good 20% of all the love you posses for you and you alone.
Now, when you have to dump this dude you're not dating, there's one thing that will make it easier on him than anything else. And that is to act like a nun until he's over you. So, it all depends on how committed you are to his happiness. Break ups are always painful, but it really hurts when the object of your affection goes arm-hopping.
2006-12-10 00:44:16 · answer #3 · answered by Merelda 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
if you do it slow - you aren't doing it nice - because you are prolonging it - just be firm, direct, and say it from the heart. To be honest though it sounds like the problem here is totally with your fears of having your heart broken. Why don't you tell him how you feel about things - it doesn't sound like you dislike this guy - most guys just want to here from your heart. If you can't speak from your heart its unlikely you will ever avoid having your heart broken. See what happens - what do you have to loose - your fear???
2006-12-10 00:51:09 · answer #4 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Be upfront and honest and stick to what you believe....The truth is always the best way to go. Just tell him that you really don't want to be in a relationship right now. Thats all he needs to know. The longer it goes on the worse it will be so do it soon.
2006-12-10 00:38:02 · answer #5 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Is it fair to him to be dumped slow n easy? Just be up front with him and say "we had a nice time, but, I just do not feel the attraction I am looking for" He will be hurt, but not led on.
2006-12-10 00:37:30 · answer #6 · answered by Common Sense 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
...there is never a 'nice' way to dump someone..is your only reason for ending it fear of being hurt?????...if it is then just go with it..we must take risks in life or we learn nothing...if you have solid and genuine reasons for feeling as you do then you owe it to yourself (and him!!) to be honest and upfront...so just tell him...you are not interested in any kind of relationship with him...but why do i get the feeling there is more to this than you have stated...good luck and happy hols....
2006-12-10 00:40:36 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Slowly isn't nicely. His emotional well-being is not your responsibility. Your emotional cowardice is a little pathetic. Tell him the truth.
2006-12-10 00:41:26 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
be honest. he may be hurt in the beginning regardless, but men will always respect honesty above all else. tell him you really think he's wonderful, but the timing is off. timing is almost everything in this world and unfortunately, nobody can control it.
2006-12-10 00:39:12 · answer #9 · answered by Christie Brucks 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
kill him XD, or stay with him, cuz if you dump him, hes gonna suspect ur with another guy... and then hell stalk you! And then your computer is gonna lose a motherboard, and then your car tires are gonna break (if you have a car) and yeah, that. That happened to my mom lol.
2006-12-10 00:40:25 · answer #10 · answered by Alan 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋