ok, i was goin out with this girl for about a year and three months she always told me she is really happy being in a serious relationship with me, then we had a fight three weeks ago she thought she was pregnant n wudnt talk to me she is not pregnant though it was a stupid fight, and she broke up with me 2 weeks ago, she said she doesnt want a relation ship anymore cause of the preassure, i havent really left her alone ive being calling her n stuff, and i know i shoulndnt. so i left her alone for a few days, she emailed me yesterday and said she was going to flynns(bar) she said she was goin with a freind and said she will see me if im there.. i didnt go i wanted her to have space and i didnt want her thinking im desperate.she called me a a few mins ago and asked if she could get her stuff from my room,sumtime this week i said of course you can(im trying to keep cool) she said ok, i
didnt make small talk, i think she expected me too, but i think its up to her, she nos i luv her
2006-12-10 00:30:54 · 12 answers · asked by Dan W 2 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
my guess is that her response to your response to the possibility of a pregnancy changed something about her perception of "EVERYTHING" - This type of thing happens- you need to get together at a neutral place for a private conversation. A park, a playground, a place where you can be public yet private. Tell her to express herself about the whole thing- the relationship now, before and throughout.
Good Luck!
2006-12-10 00:36:11 · answer #1 · answered by boobird 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Make sure she knows that you didn't want this to happen and that you still love her. Then STOP all contact with her. If she wants to get her stuff, offer to bring it to her on your terms. When you bring her stuff to her, be kind and polite but brief and leave. She will get the message that you have moved on and you can live without her.
You need to start living your life without her in it. While you are chasing her and professing your love, she knows she has you and there is no motivation to change because you are chasing her.
By you being there, you are not giving her time to miss you or giving her time to understand the gravity of the situation. She will be getting what she asked for only if you stop contacting her and genuinely move on with your life. Only then will she stop to think that maybe that is not what she really wanted because she may start to miss you.
2006-12-10 08:43:28 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Youve got a good intention but dont do that she says she wants time alone but inside she wants you to grovel!!! You may think your not in the wrong and your not as neither of you are!!! She was stressed about the baby!!! Babe what you should do is get her a big bunch of flowers and knock at where shes staying and ask if you can come in and sit down and talk in a sensible manner!! Whatever you do dont get angry and stay calm! You wont get together straight away, you might not even get back but at least you will get on!!! It takes time!
2006-12-10 08:38:12 · answer #3 · answered by sara p 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't let ur ego get in the way...just remember regrets always comes in the end..if u really love her then get her back..u know sometimes girls want to feel they're really important and sumtimes do some stupid things...but that's just to get ur attention...and yes..! if u don't want to lose her, do doing the right thing..call her now! goodluck!
2006-12-10 08:45:57 · answer #4 · answered by reida j... 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
she may be playing games for attention. it might be best to cool it way down and prove to her that game playing or pulling the plug is not an option. you want a relationship in which you can relax and treat one another with respect and loyalty. nobody wants to have to worry each day about whether they might become single by the night. you need to be able to depend on her gf. why do people play games? because other people are willing to play with them.
2006-12-10 08:35:01 · answer #5 · answered by Christie Brucks 7 · 0⤊ 1⤋
i think it's a lovers tiff , but you both need to grow up and/or grow into the relationship --- I'm wondering how old are you both ?
obviously enough to go to a bar and live together --- you'll need to sit down and discuss your future --- you can't keep pissing around if you're fair dink-um --- put your cards on the table and take it from there . good luck .
2006-12-10 08:40:55 · answer #6 · answered by bill g 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Don't play head-games. If what she said is not what she really wants, that's her lookout. Life's too short to play games.
She said she doesn't want a relationship with you. Deal with it. Move on with your life.
2006-12-10 08:37:07 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
It doesn't matter what you or she want's because if it's not the same thing then it's not going to work anyway. Move on.
2006-12-10 08:38:36 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
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2006-12-10 08:36:22 · answer #9 · answered by mr johnson 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you must show to your x g friend that you really love her but don't do the negative thing
2006-12-10 08:48:21 · answer #10 · answered by akilq 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋