2006-12-10 00:25:24 · 11 answers · asked by sdhtaran 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Family
everyone copes at their own rate
you have to deal with death as apart of life
if that person loved you they would not want you wasting your life mourning them
but also give respect that is due
2006-12-10 00:29:06 · answer #1 · answered by Jonnygirl 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You poor dear!!! I , have a sixteen year old daughter, who , very unfortunately, lost her father in an accident when she was 14. It was the MOST tragic and traumatizing day in her life. She went through grief sessions, but said that they do NOT work. She said that they just simply try to help you to forget about the person to quickly!! He daddy was her best friend!!!! Of course, she has me, her mom, but his shoes will never ever be able to be filled again!! The best thing i can tell you is to just whenever you feel like crying DO IT !!! DO NOT try to keep it all inside sweetheart because if you do you will end up exploding on someone who really cares about you!!! On holidays we try to just add a little extra something to do to "Fill In" the missing space, but of course to her there is no filling in....Hold your head up as high as possible and try your best to be and do the best you can with the situation at hand!!!! I KNOW it is HARD, but we always have to remember of the day that we will get to see that person again!! Whoever it is , is definately in a better place then we are right now!!
Good luck to you !!! try to do what you think that particular person would have wanted you to do with your life and that will also keep you very busy and sometimes even take your mind off of it for a few....Try to still Suceed in all your goals okay!!!
You are in my thoughts and prayers. God Bless you and your loved ones during this time in your lives....
2006-12-10 01:03:01 · answer #2 · answered by littleEfan25 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Im really sorry for your loss. The best way to deal with it is to try and take your mind out of the grief.
Try hanging out with friends or other family members often. Be with a happy/cheery group of people all the time. Dont be alone for even one moment (unless for the obvious reasons), until you can truly get over it. Because it will take some time to get over the grief of losing a loved one.
2006-12-10 00:30:41 · answer #3 · answered by MrRomeo 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Unfortunatley, there are no quick fixes for grief. The best friend you have right now is time. Talk to friends and family members as much as you can, and let all the pain out. If you really need to, there are grief consolers that can help. The best of luck.
2006-12-10 00:29:43 · answer #4 · answered by INDRAG? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Day to day you put your own strategies into place on how to cope. Its a bit like stress really you get up brush your teeth etc and you go on with your day and sometimes you have to make yourself do it. Sometimes doing something personal in rememberance helps like planting a tree or writing a journal and just remember there is a whole circle of feelings in grieving including anger ...a counsellor would be able to help you with this. Best of luck
2006-12-10 00:44:10 · answer #5 · answered by blue_eyed_woman_of_3 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Griefing is a very individual response to a tragic circumstance. There is no right or wrong way, each person handles - and should be allowed to handle - the tragedy in their own way. To cope in the manner best suited to them.
2006-12-10 00:29:43 · answer #6 · answered by jack w 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
surely I would cry, maybe for one or two days, I would think back about the wonderful time I have with them. After that, I would overcome that bad situatio, The most important thing is that one wants me to live well, and live better, not to feel too sad to live. I wouldn't let my life go down because of that. Maybe losing someone you love is really hurt, but you should not fall in your life. Because you , and also the one that left, do not want it at all. you have to be strong and overcome all the bad situation
2006-12-10 00:34:29 · answer #7 · answered by James Chan 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Remind yourself that this happens to everyone eventually. If you get too down on yourself, it will seem like your whole life turns around in the wrong direction. They didn't decide to be deceased, it just happened. Someday it will happen to you and your family and friends will be sad. This is a natural thing to feel and try to distract yourself. Sometimes thinking about all the good memories makes someone sadder (like me), but for others it makes them happy.
Don't cry because it's over, smile because it happened.
2006-12-10 00:30:22 · answer #8 · answered by luv2sing.2007 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
you don't cope.. you surround yourself with friends and family and and remember the best times. share your memories of the person. its easier then being alone and not having someone to talk to .
2006-12-10 02:27:48 · answer #9 · answered by bluedanube69 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
would cry, for some daya, months...and slowly wil adjust wit the situation
2006-12-10 00:28:48 · answer #10 · answered by oh its me 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋