A parent slaps a child so hard it causes a nose bleed,what does the parent need to do?

Question

A child makes a nasty comment to a parent. The parent gets angry and slaps the child so hard the childs nose bleeds. What do you think this parent needs to do about this situation? We need rational comments like counseling, anger management, medication that sort of thing.

Lets not talk about things like leting someone beat the crap out of the parent that sort fo stuff. We will assume that this is a parent who really does love the child despite what the slap seems to say . Lets talk abou real useful solutions to this problem. Solutions people could actually use.

I hope these answers will be read and taken to heart. By people who need to see them.

Even if it is the first time when anger over comes love in this fashion it is a strong warning! Help is needed. Just once is not acceptable. Just once could change a childs life forever or end it.

Any parent under so much stress that they snap in this fashion, no matter what a child has said or done, is in need of assistance of some kind.

Assistance is available and a parent seeking this kind of help will be seen as a courageous loving parent, top notch! Will be seen as a self sacrificing parent who truely has the best interest of thier child at heart

Answer 1

You asked what does the parent need to do...but the real question may be what should people around the parent do... Hitting a child on the face is unacceptable, judging by the details of your question you agree with that. The parent should be reported to the authorities for child abuse.

Answer 2

People often react without conscience thinking. If this is what happened, it is more understandable, but not ok. When I was younger I remember getting slapped on the cheek once and never talking to my parent as I had again. As long as there are no other signs of abuse I would not necessarily report the parent right away. If there is a history of other events such as this (with or without the child being involved) I would consider counseling and anger management. If there is a history of abuse, someone needs to step in and say it is not okay (using whatever means they deem appropriate as they will understand the situation far better than anyone here).

The parent also needs to talk to the child and explain, as well as they can what happened and why they did what they did. I do not mean blaming the child for what they said or how they said it. This parent needs to own their actions. By talking to the child and helping them understand it will ease the mental pain the child has right now. The parent also needs to explain that they are working on getting help so that this doesn't happen again. It will also teach the child to do the same when they make a bad choice and feel bad about what has happened.

To get a good start, I would suggest counseling of some kind, or at least talking to a trusted friend. In most cases a situation like this only happens once and can be prevented if the parent has someone that they can talk to about parenting issues. Good Luck and I hope everything works out for the best.

Answer 3

Even though slapping the child especially in the face is wrong,it does happen and not intentionally . It can happen in a rage of anger or surprise as to what the child said to the parent. Fist of all ....... the parent needs to go to the child and apologize right away for hitting . Let him/her know that you didn't mean it and that what he/she said was wrong. If they ever feel in that situation again they need to tell the child to go to his/her room and they can do the same. Calm yourself down before you go back in there for the punishment and they should think of how they would feel if their parents had done that to them unless it did and if so then think about how you felt afterward. If it is happening more than they would like then,they should talk to their Dr. and ask for a recommendation of someone who can help them with their anger problem.If the child went to school and told the teacher or counselor what happened they would have child protective services at their door so fast. I know that whom ever hit the child is remorseful and wants help other wise they would of never told you and you would of never posted this question for help unless you saw this first hand and if so then you have to figure out if you have an obligation to step up and help them get help especially if it's a family member or a spouse. I am not saying that it is your spouse or yourself so please don't think that because I am not. Good luck to you and whom ever needs the help.Your a good person for being concerned. Just be cautious because certain things can change everyones lives weather it be for the better or for the worst. Either way they need help!!!!!

Answer 4

Sounds like major counseling is in order. Also if there is so much stress, that parent needs to find a way to get out of the stressful situation, at least for a little while. That parent needs help and needs it right away. If money is an issue for counseling, call around in your community. There are some places that will do it for free and others that can put you on a sliding fee scale. If something isn't done to rectify the situation the child(ren) will be taken out of the home into protective custody, possibly permanently.

Answer 5

"A parent slaps a child so hard it causes a nose bleed,what does the parent need to do?"
The parent shud NEVER slap the child that hard in the first place. The parent shudnt slap the child at all!!

Answer 6

Kids need to be Punished and corrected an all, but a hit that hard that it causes a nose bleed. That's pretty excessive and good way to loose they're child. I believe you can great authority and make a child listen without hitting them. My mom used to spank me everyday but, my dad put the fear in me and never laid a hand on me. He was one of those Vietnam era military men. He would punish me by making life hell and taking away privileges.
As for the parent accidents do happen. If this is something that happens repeatedly than they need to seek help!

Answer 7

There is a time and a place for everything. I was slapped and spanked when I was a child ,as were all my friends. It isn't horrible or emotionally scarring and it isn't abuse. We all turned out just fine. There's a big difference between child abuse and corporal punishment. I don't think it's something to be proud of,as though you're bragging that you slap your children.That sounds a little off. As a mother of 7 and a grandmother of 5, there have been times when a slap or a spank was necessary.

Answer 8

i think hitting a child or any other human being (but specially a child) is totally unacceptable , its just WRONG
first, the parent should teach his child respect to avoid this sort of behaviour and second if the parent doesnt have to react so violently against this. the parent should sit and have a good talk with the child about behaviour and set rules that BOTh will have to accept and put in practice. that way the child doesnt feel alone ... for example, if the kid doesnt say nasty things for a week he can have 10 cookies in the weekend at dinnner! the child will realize that u get good things when u do good things....

they give and u give... do you get me ? because violence leads only to bad things. the child will not feel love and instead he/she will learn from a bad example and will behave even worse and get to a point where they "reveal" all that hate or pain they have in their hearts.... well its not hate, but its some sort or resentment


if you hit a child they have a great chance of growing up as violent beings and that is not good. if you teach respect you get respect. its not hard. also, if you bring up ur child in a love environment your kid will be happier in every way, they willl do good in school according to their abilities and will feel contempt with themselves too and thats very important. when u hit a child it doesnt only affect them physically but mentally too, you are actually stepping over their self steem!
never hit ur child, its ABUSE IN EVERY WAY.

Answer 9

Nose-bleed or not it's the initial hitting that is the real issue. The parent should seek help because it seems as if there exists an automatic (uncontrolled?) tendency to strike out. Did someone once teach them that violence is a solution?

Answer 10

if a parent is hurting thier child out of anger, that parent definately has some issues that need to be resolved, especially before any psycological damage is done to the child.
counseling and anger management is a great place to start. If the situation is grave enough perhaps the parent should be seperated from the child untill the issues are resolved