my bf and i had been dating for almost 2 yrs, then he cheated and left me for this girl who is a player. then she cheated on him and left him for another guy and he came back to me. i had predicted that she would do all that to him but he didn't listen to me. so we got back together and he kissed one of my friends! he sees his mistakes and is very sorry, but why would he do all this to me? i know he loves me and i kno he's changing and everything is great betweeen us now but how can i prevent this from happening again? pleez only serious answers, i really love him and don't want to lose him again.
2006-12-10 00:07:14 · 13 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
mhm . . . well the only guys I've met that were like that were total jerks, and they never said sorry, so I think he must mean it, and you have to trust him not to do anything more and tell him how much it hurt you about what he did . . but then tell him you want to stay with him but you also want to trust him to never do those things again and well if he really loves you he'll listen and things'll work out
2006-12-10 00:11:59 · answer #1 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
Oh babe listen there really is nothing you can do if he's going to cheat nothing you can do will stop that...it almost seems like this is a guy who when in a relationship still wants to act as though he is single...i know you say everything is all good now, but do you really want to live your life wondering, worrying when the next time will be for him to make another move on someone else?......you sound as if you love him so much which is really sweet, but don't allow yourself to become a door mat for him, just because you want to hold onto him....but good luck.
2006-12-10 08:22:22 · answer #2 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
A leopard can't change his spots and it sounds like your BF can't keep it in his pants. Is he drinking? If so ask him to lighten up on the booze. Otherwise if he does it again, do it to him and see how it makes him feel. If that doesn't work nothing will, and as much as it will hurt, u have to move on, or spend some time apart so he can work on his "problem". Though I have a feeling w/out you around he'll be w/ someone else in about dos segundos. Good luck w/ him, and don't be afraid of change, whether temporary or permanent. It could save you lots of pain, and heartache down the road.
2006-12-10 08:32:10 · answer #3 · answered by GreyGHost29 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
He needs counselling. I'm sure that he does. He's just not mature enough or appreciative enough of what he has, that's you. I think that you should give him his space. Leave him for sometime. Concentrate on your work. Don't contact him even if he does. Time and space bring people closer and make them realise the worth of people. I'm sure that this will be hard on you. At the end of a month or two, analyze the situation. If you still feel the same for him, then have a talk with him. Else, you can move on. Seems hard? Useless? I beg to differ.
Don't underestimate the power of time.
2006-12-10 08:15:54 · answer #4 · answered by Maverick 2 · 0⤊ 1⤋
You cannot prevent anything. He cheated once he will do it again. The question is are you prepared to be hurt again and then have him back after the other one leaves him?
No i think you deserve better than that.
2006-12-10 08:13:52 · answer #5 · answered by green eyes 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
At present only you two are knows that you are loving each other decide and think about your future only solution is marriage . Marriage is a ceremony with relatives, friends and public.Normally any one willnot go and look for other girl.
2006-12-10 08:22:35 · answer #6 · answered by David S 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
He shouldn't do that in the first place. But you forgive him and it is alright. unfortunately you just can't change his attitude....you can't stop him for being himself. Though, you have to options : be with him and deal with all his mistakes but yet and good things...and second to break up with him if you can't deal and solve this issues.
Take care my yahoo friend,and don't worry too much , OK :)
2006-12-10 08:14:35 · answer #7 · answered by invisible1 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
he's a playful guy .I am sure you know this now .He might love you ,I never can say he doesn't love you but he's kind of player who likes to be naughty sometimes .
I understand you love him and you don't like to be apart again but then you really must be tolerant because I am sure he wont change at least not in short term!
2006-12-10 08:14:10 · answer #8 · answered by Mysterious 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
i agree with that statement, once a cheat always a cheat..
am sorry but your asking to be cheated on again, letting him back after he did such a horrible thing to you has given him the sign ' its ok i can do it again, all i have to do is say sorry and she'll have me back.. easy'.
he doesnt love you, he may care for you but he doesnt love you, you dont abuse somebodies trust and abuse their respect and hurt them in such a way if you love somebody.
2006-12-10 08:14:01 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 1⤊ 0⤋
My dear Minnie, why people do things that have no logic is beyond me, but if I were you, I would run as soon as possible far, far away from this smelly salad.
2006-12-10 08:12:08 · answer #10 · answered by markos m 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋