how would you go about telling a 4 year old child that his mother is dyinhg? to make it harder, she is the only parent he has.
2006-12-09 23:07:28 · 9 answers · asked by Anonymous in Pregnancy & Parenting ➔ Toddler & Preschooler
Be gentle but honest and dont tell the child until you feel the end is very near.
Since the child is so young you might want to consider videotaping something for them when they are younger.
Take lots of pictures when the parent is gone the pictures and memories are what will keep the parent alive in their hearts.
A letter from mom given to the child at special times in their lives would also be real nice. exp. wedding, high school grad. let them know even though you are not there with them in person you will always be there in spirit.
Make the most of the time that you have left with your baby.
2006-12-10 01:49:55 · answer #1 · answered by mamaac43 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
talk to a pastor that you can trust about it. They will help you. but I wouldn't say anything too greusome or go into too much detail. I would be afraid of saying something they would never forget. Something that would give them nightmares. I would definitely talk to a good pastor. They are very experienced in dealing with death and being there for the families. Even if you do not attend a church anywhere, no good pastor would turn you away when it comes to something like this. Even if you don't believe in any type of faith...it doesn't matter. Death is death and any good pastor would know how to talk to a child about it.
2006-12-10 08:36:59 · answer #2 · answered by Pepe-mint 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
say mommy has to visit the angles pretty soon because she is verry sick, and you are going to stay with grandma, nana, or who ever you have as a caretaker after you are gone, for a long time. She will watch you grow up and become a good, strong man, that I know you are. I will be able to see you from the clouds and watch you grow and play. You won't be able to see me but I will always be in your heart and memory.
It is a good way to start, but you will have to end with any questions he has about your illness and where he will be living after your passing.
2006-12-10 07:25:45 · answer #3 · answered by Melissa F 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
man that's so sad i feel sorry for the little guy only parent?why is she dying?anyways this is tough say hun i am really sorry but mommy is going to heaven where it's very beautiful and where her soul will be ok and you will be ok.but i am so sorry this is happening.merry christmas to the 4 year old and you!
2006-12-10 18:14:16 · answer #4 · answered by kitty654 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Oh, boy, this is the toughest one. I would say, be honest. That his Mommy is going to go to heaven. I would also let him know that he will still be safe and loved and let him know the arrangements that are being made for his care. Let him know his Mom will still love him in heaven and be watching over him.
2006-12-10 07:16:59 · answer #5 · answered by Scoots 5 · 0⤊ 0⤋
My aunt died very suddenly when my cousin was four years old. they didn't have time to prepare him for it, but after it happened they told him that his mommy was up in Heaven with the angels.
2006-12-10 07:09:59 · answer #6 · answered by _ 2 · 1⤊ 0⤋
have the mom tell him herself, straightfoward. this will prolly make him feel more proud of her when he grows up.
2006-12-10 07:16:57 · answer #7 · answered by haat 5 · 2⤊ 0⤋
I wouldn't know, this must be the hardest question.
2006-12-10 07:08:49 · answer #8 · answered by LC 5 · 1⤊ 0⤋
very emotional, no one can reply correctly
2006-12-10 07:17:59 · answer #9 · answered by MAGGY@YAHOO.COM 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋