Our fourteen year old daughter has been harrassed, & now has confronted our daughter & constantly is threatning her. The reason-------- her ex-boyfriend ( I would hardly call him that, they hardly ever talked on the phone, & never seen eachother because he is 1 year older & now attends high school ) has a new girlfriend who is absolutely obsessed with him & the fact that our daughter is his ex. As a mother who in school, never experienced anything like this, ( I was a jock, stuck up for all who got bullied, & people were just intimidated by me) my first initial reaction would be to beat the living hell out of this chick, however, thats definetly not the answer, as an adult that is just not acceptable, & being a true believer & lover of CHRIST JESUS, I am to walk in love under all circumstances. But I have been walking in love for the past 14 years of our daughters life . I also know that I have to set an example because we have 4 daughters. ( there all younger than her) What to do?
2006-12-09 22:44:31 · 12 answers · asked by BRITTANIA 1 in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
Times are different from when you were in school. ABSOLUTE violence is becoming the norm in these situations, not just a school fight.
You must protect your child. Let the school know what is happening and be truthful about why. Let the police know - and that was a tough one to write since I do not trust the police in any situation.
You cannot protect your child while she is in school. You may want to think about home schooling if this escalates. Children are being hurt for the most ridiculous reasons these days.
She is your child -- do EVERYTHING you can to protect her. You know people who are obsessed are out of their minds, so do whatever is necessary.
Since you are a Jesus freak, talk to your religious group and find out what they suggest - as long as they are in the real world and not living some religious fantasy - they may have some ideas to help.
2006-12-09 22:56:53 · answer #1 · answered by kc 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
You can be a christian and protect your family. Talk to the girls family. If that does not help call the police and let the school pricipal know as well. BEFORE something does occur in a bad way.
Explain what you wrote to the authorities. If nothing is done, consult attorney on daughters rights and questions you have. DO NOT take it into take it into your hands. If your daughter wants to defend herself, that is her decision.
I was verbally bullied in middle school. the reason: I have a hearing loss and used a hearing aid. the boy makes remarks or sounds. I turned and called him "fattie"...he never teased me again. I did not get any pleasure doing that to a peer. But I learned I could and had to stand up for myself.
Hope things simmer down some!!
2006-12-10 06:56:25 · answer #2 · answered by strong1 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Inform the girl's parents of her actions - immediately. If that doesn't stop her from terrorizing your daughter file a complaint with the Juvenile Division in your County. She can be stopped. She is stalking and making terroristic threats toward your daughter. Have a restraining order placed on the girl.
Love for Jesus Christ or not - if this girl is physically hitting your daughter - she has a right to protect herself. Maybe you should teach her a few defensive moves.
2006-12-10 06:55:08 · answer #3 · answered by slick chik 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I definitly would get the school involved and with in a week if that goes no-where, contact the other mother and talk to her try not to make her daughter out to be the bad one try to be honest yet say it how you feel. If that does not work get a restraining order. As for moving your daughter that won't help but teach her it is ok to run from her problems. If this bully chic touches her in anyway she should knock her out. My husband says "just put a bullet in her head" problem solved...Joking* Good Luck
2006-12-10 07:00:37 · answer #4 · answered by shelby_estes74 1 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It sounds like you have some sense about it. Go to the school to start with. approach the Principal. I had to do this.
Explain to him the situation and what's going on, the past, keep yourself out of it. Intimidation doesn't work and I'm sure he or she, will not be interested in your past and, in fact it may harm the situation.
Let him know that you will include the police if your daughter is harmed in any way. This always lets them know you will follow through and are willing to go the length.
Make sure the guy knows, if you have to tell him yourself if they don't, that you will file charges of harassment. And then be ready to follow through.
2006-12-10 06:56:30 · answer #5 · answered by cowboydoc 7 · 0⤊ 0⤋
To confront and to deal with bullies and threatening issues usually comes to provoke the other party and things get worse. DId you ever consider to move? Change your daughter's living environment and that's the best.
2006-12-10 06:51:30 · answer #6 · answered by apple87guy 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
I would try to get in touch with the girls parents...and talk to them....If you get nowhere, that way....tell the police....they may not take you seriously....but do it`anyway...you can never be too careful nowdays....as bad as it is...you need to stay as close to your daughter as possible....these teenagers are crazy these days.....I attribute it to, no home training.....Im glad your a responsible and loving parent to your daughter...good luck
2006-12-10 06:56:50 · answer #7 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Speak to the parents. If they'll cooperate, have both girls sit down and talk in your combined parental presence. Your daughter needs to make clear she's not interested in the guy.
BTW, I like your first reaction
2006-12-10 06:52:28 · answer #8 · answered by ladybugewa 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋
speak 2 the school or police
2006-12-10 06:48:16 · answer #9 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 0⤋
Call the police, file a report, get a no-contact order, get a gun.
2006-12-10 06:48:03 · answer #10 · answered by ? 6 · 0⤊ 0⤋