My name is Sam. I'm 17. My boyfriend, Jason, and I have been together for a month and we really love each other. The problem is ever since last weekend since I saw Cody, my old crush (more like the feeling of a soulmate), I can't get him out of my head. There's alot of anicent history between me and Cody. Mostly sad, but I still fell drawn to Cody more the I do Jason even though I love him dearly. The worst part is when I ordered these personalized romance novels and I put my name and Jason's name in the books. When I got finished with the first book, I realized when I read the book I pictured Cody as the hero and not Jason. I have no idea what to do. Plus, I can't contact Cody to let him know so we can't work this out. What am I to do?
2006-12-09 22:12:25 · 11 answers · asked by Anonymous in Family & Relationships ➔ Singles & Dating
This is mine and Cody's story. We never truly went out as bf/gf. We just hung out as friends. He knew I had a crush on him, but I also suspected he was gay. And that hurt him and for about a year I tried to apologize to him until he finally accepted and he apologized for ignoring me for a year and we decided to go our seperate ways so that kind of thing wouldn't happen again. Then Jason and I got together and Cody never crossed my mind until I saw him at The Nutcraker last weekend. Now I'm just confused.
2006-12-09 22:39:15 · update #1
Does anyone know what I could do?
2006-12-12 04:46:59 · update #2
If you're thinking about Cody, then you're not in love with Jason. If you love someone, you don't think about anybody else.
Quit being wishy-washy and stop leading Jason on. You're wasting both your time and his. Break up and go find Cody.
How stupid are you?
2006-12-09 22:17:47 · answer #1 · answered by Sax M 6 · 0⤊ 1⤋
At 17 you are still young, but not to young to make a mistake that can hurt 2 young men. I think you should think long and hard and make a decision of which man you want to be with. Unfortunately we cannot put them together. There are obviously qualities you like in both. Like the song by Mary Mcgregor "torn between two lovers, feeling like a fool", but ...in the end, it can be very painful experience for all involved. Why did it not work out for you and Cody? Seeing an old bf can bring back memories and we try to remember the GOOD stuff and not the BAD that made us leave the relationship. If things were that great with Cody you would have stayed together but I do not know the entire story. I am just trying to make you think so you can make a decision. Jason deserves the truth whatever you decide to do. If you need time to think, let him know. Be honest and tell him you need sometime to work somethings through. Good luck hon..be true to your heart but have your feet firmly planted on the ground.
2006-12-10 06:20:05 · answer #2 · answered by Ness 4 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe, there are a lot of could-have-beens in your head. It is so unfair for Jason if you really think about Cody as the hero. It is very not right to be having a relationship with Jason if you're fantasizing about your old crush in the first place, don't you think?
The fact that you and Cody ended up so badly, gives you a very clever decision of ending up with Jason. If your relationship with Jason is just as bad as the one you had with Cody, why are you still hanging on to it? But if it is running smoothly, get on the right track, girl...you're just imagining things that you wish might have happened if you and Cody worked it out.
2006-12-10 06:23:05 · answer #3 · answered by nozmiat 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
well i dont really think you like this other guy, Cody, i mean. ive kinda been through the same thing as you and well you said hes your old crush and usually when people have crushes they just fantasize alot without the slightest clue how these fantasies are actually gonna happen. i dont believe any crush is ever completely forgotten, so maybe just after so long away from Cody, having him near you again is just re-kindling some of those feelings(more lust than love, i can see) and now your just confused cause what you feel for Jason is real but it may not be as passionate or physical as what you feel for cody. you need to think this through with yourself and get yourself to understand what your feeling for both of these guys. figure out why exactly your feeling these things for Cody after all this time. if you think you may not be able to handle getting over Cody again or you just wanna make sure that you get used to having him around, talk to Jason. Make it clear to Jason that he's the one you really care for and you just want to make sure that your 100% with him. i think he willl understand. best of luck :)
2006-12-10 06:22:11 · answer #4 · answered by Meme 2 · 0⤊ 0⤋
It is unfair to Jason to pretend to keep up a relationship when you obviously are still love Cody. Why don't you contact Cody and see how he feels about renewing the realtionship. You have nothing to lose, and might just find out he feels the same way you do.
2006-12-10 06:18:31 · answer #5 · answered by maggie 1 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Thats a big dilemma.
If he really likes you, I mean cody he should have approached you first. He shouldnt be delaying so much.
You seriously have to move on, can you ever think of hurting Jason. What if you leave jason and cody does the same to you.
I believe you need to firgure out who would love you more, who would take care of you and be honest with you between the two of them.
Leave the past, firgure out wat kind of person he is right now (cody), and how much he is willing to commit.
Dont just hang on to the past how much you really liked him, you might loose them both.
Stick to the one who really loves you.
good luck
2006-12-10 06:20:56 · answer #6 · answered by Anne H 3 · 0⤊ 0⤋
Maybe you should take some time off from both of them and gather your thoughts. You've only been with Jason for a month, that's a flicker in time. At this point, the only thing you owe Jason is your honesty. You owe yourself more. You've got to do whatever it is that you think will make you happy.
2006-12-10 06:19:43 · answer #7 · answered by Kerry 7 · 1⤊ 0⤋
probably the best thing to do is stop reading the books and hope that your feelings for jason get stronger now that the cold weather is setting in.
2006-12-10 06:16:32 · answer #8 · answered by Anonymous · 0⤊ 1⤋
Hey hey hey :-) youve got to make up your mind sweety...
You cannot serve two master, youll end up loyal to one and betraying the other...
Follow your heart, choose the one you really love...
Make a choice and stand for it...
2006-12-10 06:17:26 · answer #9 · answered by ? 3 · 1⤊ 0⤋
Without opening this question, it sounds really perverted.
2006-12-10 06:19:00 · answer #10 · answered by ∂ίятУ ℓάυиḋгÿ 4 · 1⤊ 0⤋