What do i do, stay or leave?

Question

I've been with my gf for 19 months now. I love her, i can honestly say i do. Lately we've just been fighting none stop like a married couple, and i've found myself, feeling the urge to just end it, because its getting to the point where i cant take it anymore. I havn't because i look at it as, its just a phase, we'll get passed it, we've been together this long, we can get through anything, but its just everyday the same bull. and i'm finding im not as happy of a person, because im just so angry and frustrated. I dont know what do do, should i stay with her, and try and get through it, or should i let her go, and find someone to make me happy, like she used too?

I have talked to her, and she knows how i feel, and that im no longer happy. She has this problem with trying to control every aspect of our lives, and i've told her it bugs me. I do love her, and i realize if i leave i obviously dont, but i need to do whats best for me, i cant always be thinking about others, with it being so close to xmas, i dont want to end things now, or even break now... especially with my birthday being on tuesday... i just dont know... thanks for all the incite, i appreciate the help...

Answer 1

That all depends on what your ultimate goal is. It sounds like you need to let her know how you feel as she may not be aware. It could be that she is very unhappy and not getting something she needs out of her life, this relationship or something else. Whatever is happening, the fact that you are posting here indicates that you two are suffering from a lack of communication at the very least.
Good luck HTH

Answer 2

RUN FORREST RUN...okay seriously..you need sometime apart. Regroup. Just because you have been together for a while does not mean you need to stay together. If you are arguing and not happy, do you think staying together out of loyalty will fix it? It will not, so talk to each other and make a decision to cool it off for a bit. The time away will give you both enough space to think and chill out for a bit. Put things in perspective and regroup. Then you can both decide what you want to do with the REST of your lives. Life is to short to be miserable.

Answer 3

well you know i would just pray...... as every relationship in the end is the same everyone fights and love is really knowing someone and they still love you faults and all perhaps addressing the issues what is it shes fighting about once things are over come the relation ship and love will be better than ever writing down what you love about her often helps,
there's a great book out called the 5 love languages it helps you see what she needs to feel loved,
my hubby loves physical touch and words of affirmation when hes verbally encouraged by me he feels loved
i feel loved by acts of service do something for me like clean the house and i will feel loved
its all about learning look at your relation ship like an investment full of money you wouldn't throw that away so easily try reading proverbs 3:5 and ask God all the best anyway it does sound like you do really love her

Answer 4

Dude, you guys have been spending too much time together to where you both have gotten irritated with each other. You need to spend time apart, you know, go out with the guys and relieve some stress. You said you love her well, leaving the relationship doesn't mean you love her dude. Figure it out, you can get through it. And even if you go looking for someone else, they might not be as good or as special as this one. Becareful what you ask for. Good luck.

Answer 5

Ok Bro, it seems ur not happy anymore with ur relationship. In reality if you love someone no one can give you a best solution on how to stop that kind f relation, becoz u love her right! If I were you, I will not think anymore the memories although I will think that I wasting my time here, it's better to move on to avoid wasting my precious time. She's not the only ideal girl on this crazy world.

Answer 6

hey whats the worry? u love her and she loves you. if there's no fighting there's no love. u two fight bcoz u two care for each other and really love to be loved. u just need to talk on these matter with cool mind . take her to a ride or may be a restaurant or a place where there is only both of u and can easily solve the matter. may be u get it done and live happily again and ever after.

Answer 7

I believe in your heart you know what you need to do.
What I would do is let her go for now, tell her you have a trial separation, maybe one month to start, no communication and if you two miss each other after that then your relationship will be that much stronger and you will work harder at it and definitely not agrue after not seeing each other for a month.
Good luck!

Answer 8

don't end it completely.. take a break let her realize what she will loose if she keeps up the fighting.. hang out with ur friends and try to keep ur mind off of her.. dont give in and let it go a few weeks.. see what life is like with out her.. then make a decision

Answer 9

Both of you need to take the time out and talk about how things are going....how you feel, how she feels...maybe a temporary separation from each other might be the answer to ciphen how you feel about each other. My x went straight for a divorce, and he now regrets making this rash decision versus a separation and each of us sorting our feelings out. If the relationships is important to you, you both need to talk to each other.

Answer 10

Make some space do stuff alone spend some time apart and see if your together time is better if not. maybe you should leave or spend the rest of your life fighting. that sucks. good thing you didn't marry yet.